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I am in the same phase as you and it is so hard! A constant battle but I just keep thinking if I reach out to him the whole cycle starts again. So fake. Let’s do this together!

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I want to send you love Wildandfree. I totally get all of how you feel. It is so confusing isn’t it! I can totally understand why you would be angry too but you are the winner here for want of a better word because you have got away from an abusive coward. You have feelings and empathy he does not and what a sad life that must be.

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My ex partner is exactly the same. I have come to realise there is no point in even discussing my feelings with him as he twists everything and it is all my fault. He is extremely abusive but says I am the abusive one. I have now gone no contact and it is so hard as I want to reach out to him, why I don’t know. It is hard to accept there are such disordered mean people out there but there are. All the best to you. I think not engaging with them is the only way to a peaceful life.

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I get this and it is awful. It is a constant battle and I can’t figure out why as we know nothing will be any different. It makes no sensense to me even though I read all about trauma bonding. Stay strong.

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Classic gaslighting abusive behaviour to keep you confused and anxious. Trust your gut! I wish I had. Take care

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I just wanted to say welcome and send my best to you treees. It is exhausting living with abuse and I hope you can find some peace soon.

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I find no contact so hard to maintain. I can’t get past a day or so! Well done you!

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I totally understand this Courage. The guilt is awful but they have no compassion or care for us. I hate that I feel bad for my abuser. Let’s hope 2022 is better for us all.

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Happy new year Darcy. You are such an inspiration.

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Rainbow this is physical abuse. He does not have a to punch you in the face for it to be classed as physical. He Bruised you. Of course you feel depressed, who wouldn’t!

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It is so interesting to me that many abusive partners have the same traits and behaviours. I am sorry life is so hard for you rainbow. Personally I feel the emotional abuse is worse for me even though I have been physically abused too.
It is so hard to break away from these relationships and I hope you can move forward with your little one. Sending love.

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Thank you so much wants. I feel very sad and sore today. He has been released on bail with conditions not to contact me. I have still not given my statement as am stupidly feeling protective towards him which I know shouldn’t. I am not staying at home atm and am trying to keep busy. I just don’t know what to do.

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Thank you all for your kind and supportive replies. I think there is a part of me that is scared of reprisals but I have left my house and plan to go no contact with a injunction. I am trauma bonded to him but need to move on with my life and work on myself. I am lucky as have no ties to him and it is my house.
I need to start living in reality and not how I would like things to be. Thanks again all of you for taking the time to reply on Xmas day.

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You are amazing and inspiring GR

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This smacks of control and jealousy towards you. He will hate that you are looking well and getting on without him!
Of course you felt upset by this encounter, anyone would but he is not your reality anymore.
I hope you get away like you have soon so find you very inspiring.
Take care

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Dear scared and sad
I just wanted to say hello and I know exactly how you feel. On a rational level it all seems so simple but emotionally it is so very hard. I am struggling to keep no contact and break the cycle and habit. I am going to give supportline a call as think that sounds helpful. All the best

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I know exactly how you feel as I find it like a compulsion that is so hard to break. I get back in touch every time and nothing ever changes. I am trying again to maintain no contact so am sending you power to do the same.

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Thanks everyone. I have no ties to this person but just cannot break the cycle.

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Thanks Lisa

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