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[godschild]

Poor you, I was accused last night of having a copy of my abusers book, he really went at me and it was not his book I had at all.

You cant put up with this, him deliberately waking you up that’s sheer deliberate cruelty.

I hope he leaves you alone tonight now so you can rest but you may need to call the police if his rages are getting worse to show him you wont be intimidated and abused by him,

[godschild]

It is shocking, I had no idea that SS had no input into access, its appaling and it seems he is only doing it to get at you and why should your little one suffer. its crazy and so upsetting for you and her,

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I cannot imagine how terrible it must be to have to let your children go to an abusive man as ive never been in that position, its ridiculous to let a man who has been abusive and upset the children to have access, I think the only contact these men should have is in a childrens centre where the children at in a safe place and not alone with them.

I think if the children at old enough to decide they should be allowed to not see the parent if they don’t want to, these men lose their rights as dads when thy abuse their mom or them as far as I’m concerned

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I’m sure you are doing right, your younger son has had the option to join you, worst case scenario if it gets too much for him maybe a sofa bed temporariy so he can stay with you, get yourself out first and go from there

[godschild]

This is awful did you tell 101 about the knocking on the door and damage to porch roof, they need to investigate him ASAP, he seems relentless in tormenting you,

[godschild]

Forgot to say mine used to be horrible to our puppy, he put her out of the car when I did not please him, he used to be pretty rough with her, they resent animals, they want all of the attention, harming pets is common. I gave mine to my parents in the end, this was decades ago and its all come back reading about animals, he used to put her bed out at night and yell, “get on your bed” , I remember her cowering and running past him quickly to get on the bed

[godschild]

I remember you when you were on here before Mellow Yellow, Please leave, I wish I had decades ago when I had My Parents alive and my children at home and was not too ill to do it.

He has thrown the dog it could be you or your daughter next that he throws, my children resented the fact that they grew up with abuse, your little girl is better to make a fresh start now away from abuse than witness what he did to you yesterday, that is so much more important than her temporary friends now.

You have family, an opportunity for support and a new life right away from him.

As soon as it is safe to do so pack what you need and go whilst you have the opportunity

[godschild]

Why on earth should you lose your job because of a police call out over an offence, is this even legal to say this to you, if he has tried to get to your bedroom window you must report it, your safety comes before anything, fail to see how reporting a crime affects your job.

Why should you move its him that needs dealing with, can you not go to your local police station and tell them what is happening and the threat to your job, they may be able to keep an eye on your home tonight and catch him red handed and arrest him

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Suermum, I was really sad reading your post and just looked at your previous posts, its sick and cruel what he is doing to you and causing you so much physical and emotional pain, how can he be so depraved.

It would be good to get yourself examined and the injuries recorded tommorow and tell the Dr what goes on, he should be locked up for behavoir like this to you, using your precious body to act out his fantasies and things he watches,

I hope you can get him out of the house someway, I have no experience if how but you cannot keep taking this abuse, make a firm no to him re anymore sex at all, make it totally clear, do not allow him to even sleep in your bed, if this isn’t dangerous for you to do, if this us the way he treats your body, if he is abusive in front of the children in anyway you already have reports on this and it may be a way to make him leave the home sending you a big hug you des
erve better than this we all do

[godschild]

So sorry you had abuse before, Ive had decades with just one, he has changed tactics over the times,

I had not heard the term Son Husband before so will look that up.

Selfish and evil is so so true, its hard to comprehend human beings can be so cruel and calculated, take care

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That would be wonderful so so wonderful, for people like me who cannot get out alone, I am so isolated, its so much needed, there is no provision for those of us who cant get to places, hope you can bring your dream to pass, would you mind letting e know what part of the country you are in by PM, I will understand if you don’t want to

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I don’t know how you coped with that for 5 weeks after giving birth, my mother in law was so domineering and opinonated, he never stood up to her, she is gone now but she really made a mark on my life, she stood up for him always seeing me as the problem , he would never tell her to stop her opinonated belittling attitude to me.
I’m sure that these domineering mothers damage their dons and we take the blame they use us to abuse for the pain inflicted by their mothers and we pay the price and they just treat their mothers better than they treat us, Ive read your posts you have gone through so much I dont know how these men can be so cruel

[godschild]

So true ConfusedAgain, they do harp on about normal small things they do as though they are really wonderful or resent doing them and let you know it one way or another, mine says to me that id were an abuser he would not get me food if I’m ill, he huffs and puffs whilst doing it, really moans on and on, he only does it to “prove” to himself that he is not abusive,, he totally resents anything he does of me but does things as a cover to show he is a good husband, when he is really nothing of the sort and if it suits him he will stop doing things for me.

They seem especially uncaring over pregnancy , childbirth, menopause, period issues, it would do them good to cope with these things and have the neglect they give us , proving financially is not the only provision they should give us, they are a disgrace, you must have felt very hurt after having hid child to be neglected and not nurtured

[godschild]

So true ConfusedAgain, they do harp on about normal small things they do as though they are really wonderful or resent doing them and let you know it one way or another, mine says to me that id were an abuser he would not get me food if I’m ill, he huffs and puffs whilst doing it, really moans on and on, he only does it to “prove” to himself that he is not abusive,, he totally resents anything he does of me but does things as a cover to show he is a good husband, when he is really nothing of the sort and if it suits him he will stop doing things for me.

They seem especially uncaring over pregnancy , childbirth, menopause, period issues, it would do them good to cope with these things and have the neglect they give us , proving financially is not the only provision they should give us, they are a disgrace, you must have felt very hurt after having hid child to be neglected and not nurtured

[godschild]

Thats good that you feel so much better, I know the abuse takes its toll in many ways and if you don’t have the disabilities I have and have family or friends to support you and you can go out alone and stay alone its better to get away but for me I have no one at all and it is impossible to be alone, go out alone get too see my family alone, so all I can do is the best I am doing, WA knew the extent of my issues and acknowledged that I could not leave, a Lady on the National help line said that there are Women with disabilities of many forms who cannot leave and they encouraged me to do the best I can.
They said every case of abuse is different, their understanding of the imposibility of me leaving was very very helpful, they fully acknowledged my situation, they said each women has to do the best for her whatever that might be for whatever reasons or even if she feels she needs to stay, when things get hard like now I’m unwell I reach out on here for support in the situation I’m in, there is no solution as such but some understanding and verification of the abuse helps, a big percentage of ladies on here although it being so hard manage to leave, but that is not possible for everyone when you have chronic disabilities and absolutely no one to support you, whilst my life is far from the best, its the only way at present.

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