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(detail removed by Moderator) order say only contact through as or solicitor for sole purpose of arranging contact with the children which he hasn’t done so how can this page not be against the order

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I spoke to the solicitor about going to family court to get no contact for the children. But she advised it would open the door for him to apply for contact and that he would probably get some. The police and wa have always said to just not allow him to have contact and to let him go through court if he wants it. Too date he hasn’t bothered. Does the length of time since contact have an impact? He only has this bloody fb page and when police have asked him he says it’s for when they’re older. He always claims parental ailianation yet he has never tried. Although i would fight tooth and nail. 1 never wants to see him and freaks out if she thinks he knows where she is other recently diagnosed asd and doesn’t know who he is

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Thanks kip that sounds like a great idea. I didn’t know that could be done. But how much would it cost I can’t afford legal costs at the minute

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But is it illegal to just threaten it? I don’t know if he has done it? It could just be words?

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Thank you. Every time I call the police all I get is he hasn’t breached his (detail removed by Moderator) order. They’re not interested. I scream shot everything in case he ever tries to go for contact as he will ofton say these things post them for a few hrs for people to see and then remove them.

I am lost I thought about the revenge porn thing but have no proof he has actually done it. I have informed the child abuse team. But they’re running a go slow and don’t seem that bothered

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Thanks lisa

I am really hoping we don’t have to go back into another refuge. But sadly i know it may end up being my only option

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Thank you all. I already have a lockable letter box as he threatened arson when i left. I already have someone from the police and fire brigade coming out in a couple of weeks to see if there is anything else they can do.

They wouldn’t even do anything about causing fear and alarm. I do have to say the police officer did sit trying to think of ways but didn’t get anywhere.

I have a worker from wa who is technically a navigator now. But when shes in work next week she is going to speak to a medium risk idva who i know from the freedom programme to see if she’ll take me on and fight my case. As we have got nowhere with the the high risk idvas.

My childrens school have photos of him so they recognise him.

But (detail removed by moderator)yrs on I’m in a new relationship and he still has me a prisoner in my own home.

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They wont do anything. And couldn’t even find the updated restraing order on there system

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They got called to an emergency will come out this afternoon as i have appointments this morning. But had he turned up they would have attended straight away! Is it only me that realises if they’d come on blue lights it would still give him time. Why can’t they understand how dangerous these men are.

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The police never turned up. 😭 but at least neither did my ex

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If they turn up. I need to sleep but i have lost all sense of logic or ratioal thinking. I’m convinced he’s hiding somewhere waiting for it to be dark. I keep trying to reasurre myself it could have been anyone she saw that looked a little like him but she was so distraught

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I don’t know how to handle this it’s killing me a feel like my heart has been shattered

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We are waiting for the police (detail removed by Moderator), He hasn’t had any contact since we left thank god.

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Thank you kip

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Thank you for your support. I so much appreciate it. I have had non from anywhere else.

So can i ask them to look again at the file? And who would i ask

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Thank you. We have no court orders with regards to the children just a restraining order. But he hasn’t had any contact with them since we left

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I think you can safely say it’s a relationship! But I feel so happy. I haven’t been this happen laughed this much in a long time. I never thought I would be saying this ever again

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He is a friend of a close relative of mine. Who had told me before he did about his ex. They work together and there had been an incident at work. So I know it is correct. And he does come across and genuine

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Ok we’recommend going for a drink in the day and public place so I should be OK shouldn’t I

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It’s been (detail removed by Moderator). I am quite happy on my own but sometimes think it would be nice just to have company. But I can’t remember what a normal relationship is like.

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Tonight’s another night I guess. I just need to keep reminding myself that no matter how vivid my dreams and flashbacks are he isn’t actually here and he can’t hurt me anymore can’t hit me can’t strangle me and can’t rape me. Maybe if I tell myself enough my head will realise it

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Thank you moggie. I spent quite sometime living in relation
Fuge when I left. It’s only the last few months we’ve moved into our new home. I have an outreach worker who is going to the Dr’s with me at my next appointment to try and push them into giving me some specialist ptsd help at the moment they just keep increasing my medication.

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Thank you. It is all so hard. I know next time I go to counselling I need to open up tell her exactly what is happening,it’s all so embarrassing though I feel ashamed. I am also struggling to build a relationship with her. I know it’s in my ear I know he’s not here not really raping me but they’re so vivid and frightening

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I have just started seeing one. But I am so embarrassed about wetting the bed.😭😭. My nightmares where just so real.

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Thank you kip. I really thought things would be better now. It’s been quite some time since I left,you may remember from the old site. But then I have moments like last night.

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Thank you ladies. I got a little sleep I had a few nightmares. I guess today is a new day,I just feel so low.

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There 2 that I remember alot I do hope they’re ok. Prisoner was finding it so hard

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Kip,I also have contemplated suicide many times as a direct result of all my perpetual did to me. Like you the only thing that has stopped me is my children and knowing that they need me.

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Thankyou i feel exhausted this morning. I didn’t sleep very well in the end and now i have to face counselling.

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I just can’t feel clean. What sort of mother am I? I’ve just had a bath that was so hot i passed out. What if something had have happenrd to the children. I feel so stupid sorry.

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