LonelyAs

[LonelyAs]

Sorry ur having a bad time. Im experiencing something simular. I dont just feel, i am trapped. Also complicated.
I know ill feel stronger once im free of him. Took the away recently for a weekend. It was fantastic. Peaceful. Absolute bliss. Best few days ive gad in a long time. Felt like i cou ld finally breathe.
You may feel things are strongly against you but you are stronger than you think. Just being able to admit this is happening to you and coming onto this site to share is a very big step. One that takes strength.
You will get stronger X

[LonelyAs]

Hi, just wanted to say you are not alone. It took me almost (detail removed by moderator) to see what was happening. It can be hard for people to understand what they dont know. Its one of those things that only people who have been thru it can truely deep down understand. Thats why im here on this site. Im very lonely and anxious all the time. I also have no family. Hoping to find a way to open up and get some help.

Stay strong X

[LonelyAs]

Hi, my partner is the same. Some how out of nowhere he’ll snap out of it and go back to acting normal like nothing happened. Silent treatment must be frustrating but constantly being attacked verbally and followed around the house is also difficult. He’ll keep at me saying all the right things he know will get a rise out of me. Then when i finally snap. Uses it against me. He then plays the victim.

Yes i agree, the goal post always changes. No matter what i do or say its wrong in his eyes.

We have to stop making excuses for their bad behaviour. I always convinced myself hes only this way for this and that reason. I always thought he’d change once our circumstances did. But ive recently learnt he’ll never change.

I started making a list of all the abuse i could remember. Ive too many years of bad memories. It was frightening how much i had to say. Reading back to myself, i cried. We deserve better and i just wanna be appreciated.

Stay strong X

[LonelyAs]

Your not alone. My parnter is the same. I know what you mean. When we gwt home hes changes to. Has a go at all the things ive said. Then go on to say i shouldnt have said something. How theyd be all laughing at me for saying it. Sometimes he doesnt wait to get home and gives me what i call the death look. It says how dare you say it. he does accuse me alot when i talk to people. Like (detail removed by moderator). Say you both getting chatting, he chatting you up, think your in there, you got yourself a new boyfriend, think he fancies you.

I hate birthdays or any special occasion. Finds a way to ruin it for us all.

Stay strong your not alone X

[LonelyAs]

Hi, i can very much relate. As they say dammed if you do dammed if you dont. Im going thru the exact same thing. Everything my fault. I was the same for ages. Its def not you so pls dont feel that way. But i understand its not njice living on eggshells with someone. Esp when that person is suppose to be our rock and support. Just remember your not alone. Stay strong.

[LonelyAs]

Hi, im the same. The self doubt. Think thats because my parnter has drummed it into my head for so long. Your hearing things, dont be stupid, your going mad. If people heard you. Tells me no one like me not even my family that they like him better. So i understand. Hard to get those thoughts out of your head. I havent left yet. Tricky situation. But im so glad you found the strength.

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