Managing111@

[Managing111@]

Not been on here for over a year after splitting up with my alcoholic,husband of (detail removedby Moderator) years I’ve moved on and have met a lovely man but since my ex has found out I’m in a relationship he has (detail removed by Moderator) and I feel so sad for him but I can’t go back with him,what do I do? Cut all contacts with him as it’s obvious we can’t be friends 😞 he says he loves me and can’t live without me so i feel if he died it would be my fault 🥹 advice Please

[Managing111@]

Hi sorry to read what you are going though,Only I’m going through the same thing.definitely trauma bonding it’s horrible,I think we just want a happy marriage and everything to be great but it will never be unfortunately.I’m going through divorce after many years of trying to make things work and keeping everyone happy and it’s exhausting.My family would never speak to me again if they new i still chat to him after everything he’s put me through.We even (detail removed by Moderator) because he said things would be better only for them to go back to how they were.And yet I still want him dearly,feel like I’m going crazy.I can’t help you but I can understand entirely xxxx

[Managing111@]

Thank you for you reply’s.He has already left the house as fortunately it’s mine but he just keeps texting asking me to meet up with him and that he loves me etc usual things.I find it hard to block him after all these years as I wouldn’t know if he was dead or alive why I should be bothered I really don’t know 🙄 xxx

[Managing111@]

Thanks for your support ❤️ How can some people be so cruel 😢

[Managing111@]

😂😂😂 definitely not irresistible xxxx

[Managing111@]

Thanks again duchess I didn’t want to put it on here as I was embarrassed,but couldn’t tell anyone else what an idiot I was meeting him.Makes me think he didn’t Really want me anyway I was just something he could fall on when drunk 🤮 x

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Thank you for your message limoncello,I also feel your pain,We Will never win with or without the alcohol.But for my ex husband he just doesn’t see the problem at all still after losing everything.for the first morning ever he’s not text me good morning which is very strange but that’s probably because I stood up for myself and shocked him with all the nasty comments in my last text to him last night I think he has finally realised he’s lost me for good x

[Managing111@]

Hi duchess I’m ok thanks I just had a meltdown onwards and upwards today xx

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I’ve told him (detail removed by Moderator) I can’t cope anymore 😢

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I’m sorry duchess that you have been though the same as I’m going through now it horrible,Watching them do this to themselves and not to be able to do anything about it,I thought by doing everything for him would help obviously not to finally divorcing him and his son hating him that he would see sense,But no it has made no difference at all as I said he still drinks and still wants me with it.I am coming to terms with it slowly that yes he probably does love me but can’t stop the drinking,I really do need to let go now and get on with my life.Thanks all of you for your support xxx

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I have Just text him to say that unless he stops drinking there is no point in us having a relationship as that is why our marriage ended anyway,And that seeing his messes with my head and makes me sad but I will always love you.he replied (detail removed by Moderator) But as soon as he’s had too many drinks he says he can’t cope life is shit and then threatens to kill himself.I’d hate that as I would feel if he did,it would be my fault 🤦🏼‍♀️ Thank you for your replies it really does help with my head x

[Managing111@]

Thank you duchess xxx

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Thank you everyone,It’s so sad as you really do know it will never be good,But when they tell you how beautiful you are,your amazing I love you so much,your my best friend etc I had always fallen for it as I still had love for him and wanted a happy marriage our kids are all grown up now and one of them doesn’t want to know him which is a shame the other one is special needs and just misses him and says I’m mean notletting him come home 🙄 think she’s very confused like me 😞 but never will I ever do this ever again x

[Managing111@]

That’s very true x

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Thank you eggshells I don’t want to get back with him that’s for sure. It’s just so hard cutting the ties xxx

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