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They are deeply insecure men who feel the need to gain some control in their lives by controlling the person they claim to love. Some men go to extreme lengths and we become the victims. Quite often they move on to another victim who they will adore in the public eye. As victims we look like the crazy ex girlfriend who made wild accusations. This level of pretence can’t last forever. It’s like nail polish, it chips away to expose the underneath.

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Thank you, unfortunately he secured it on the property before the divorce. He left me in thousands and thousands of pounds worth of debt. It’s nearly all paid and now this. I can’t get the house in my name until the his debt is paid off. His creditors are forcing sale.It’s going to cost me again for legal advice and then if they agree in court I will have to take his debt on.
He knows this and will pride himself on his ability to make my life unbearable. In fact he thinks he is superior in his knowledge of the law. I am freaking out because I have had enough of being in emotional turmoil because of him.
I need a good solicitor who deals in debt management . I could just sit and cry for hours.

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I went to my GP told her I was suffering from stress and depression through domestic abuse so it’s all on record. I also took counselling.

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There is much scope for discussion on this subject. In my opinion these abusive men can not have normal healthy relationships. To the outside world they are normal happy functioning men, they say and do the right things, it all seems pretty normal. Even in our days of courtship we think we have found our ideal men.

It is all an act, a huge act. These men reel us in to their way of thinking often they turn situations around to their advantage. As long as we are boosting their egos, pandering to their charms, providing the comfort of life’s little necessities our relationships are great. Sometimes they slip up and reveal their true personalities, guess what? It is never their fault. We are blamed.

Once they start to feel insecure again they look for other opportunities, in other words their next victim. We are discarded, wondering where it all went wrong. Deep down all they care about is getting what they want our needs don’t count. The aftermath is devastating. Whilst we nurse broken hearts they have moved on with out batting an eyelid.

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This post made me smile. I am with you on the underwear issue.
I am free, enjoying single life and you know something if I want to walk around with hairy legs, fake tan all over my duvet or make up on my pillows then I can because that is my choice. No one here to moan or make a full page newspaper article over something so trivial. Happy days. Stay safe ladies. X

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Hi I am about (detail removed by Moderator) years out of my abusive relationship. Those dreams really are the devil. Yes I still dream about my ex. We are young, very much in love and all those feeling resurface again. Then I wake up feeling devastated. It is like mourning the death of my relationship all over again. It knocks me for six for at least a couple of days. I still love the person he was many years ago. I do not love the person he became.

The only way I can get through those dreams is to turn the situation around. I ask myself a series of questions eg
Does he love me ……no
Does he think about me …….no
Did he ever think about my needs ……no
Did he ever love me…….. questionable
Does he love his kids…… no
The list goes on and on . I find this helps me get through those difficult dreams.
I hope you can eventually find closure and are not troubled by those dreams. X

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