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Dear nbumblebee, you deserve so much better than this, we all do. I am living with my abuser too and am also getting the moody silence so I know that edgy stomach churning feeling only too well. Why do we stay? I know why I do, but I guess we all have different reasons – it’s not that simple is it.

I truly hope things get better for you.x

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Hi Taraloulou, I understand that you love your boyfriend but I’m sorry to say that his behaviour is not acceptable or healthy, being drunk is no excuse. Yes he could get help, and it may work but it’s a risk and he may not stick with it. I am sorry to be so negative but I think you know it’s not ok and I would give serious thought to leaving the relationship before it gets any more complicated (marriage/kids). Speak with an advisor from Women’s Aid, reach out to others to get the support you deserve. Good luck. X

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Hi Purplecupcake, I’m so sorry you couldn’t continue your chat with WA online, it is so hard when you get little free time. I emailed my local WA and asked for a face to face meeting which they arranged with me via email (I met the worker in a coffee shop). Could you do that, I’m sure you could take your kids with you if you didn’t have a babysitter. Xx

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Well done you. Just to add to Grey Rocks reply, I’m doing the Freedom programme now, it’s runs for 12 weeks and I am getting so much from it, even though I’m still in my relationship it still gives me support and hope. Give it a go if you can it will help you, I’m sure. Good luck. X

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How lovely, so nice to hear how you have found a new life free of abuse. Enjoy every minute. X

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So so true, dark days but sometimes a glimmer of light shines in to give us hope. X

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Thank you for your replies, this site give so many of us a safe place to talk with people who really understand. Reaching out is a positive step and we live to fight another day. Hope you all have a peaceful day. X

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Hi Coogeebee, I’m glad you’ve reached out, this life is very hard (that’s an understatement) but there is support out there and on this forum so you are definitely not alone. I hope you get the support you deserve. X

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The Freedom Programme is available nationwide as far as I’m aware, it’s for survivors, who are either still in, or have left their abusive partners. You can get more information online about what it’s about but I am really glad I got involved. They run for 12 weeks, I’ve done three so far and am getting a lot from it. I found about it through my local Womens Aid. Hope this helps.

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Thank you nbumblebee, it does help speaking with others, if only a tiny bit. X

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Thank you Hereforhelp.

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How brave of you, well done. I have children too but they are grown up but still live at home and not very independent. I don’t work and due to my own mental health issues am getting weaker every day. I know it sounds pathetic I hate myself for being so weak but being able to leave with limited savings and other complications seams out of my reach.

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Thank you Twitcher for your words of support. It feels impossible right now but hope is not completely lost yet. X

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I don’t feel brave but it’s a start isn’t it. I’ll look into the free therapy too. I need to work out whether it’s domestic abuse or just a bad relationship. I guess if someone’s behaviour totally dictates how comfortable or uncomfortable you feel in your own home then it’s a definite yes to it being abusive.

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