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I’ve also left and feel happier and less stressed at home but worry as well about child arrangements as we have a toddler and nothing has been put in place yet. I also worry he will turn them against me if not now, later.

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Thank you @loverofnocontact I feel angry myself that I chose someone like him and as a result I need to go to therapy and the groups and forums and he does nothing. The problem is with them but we end up with the brunt of it and dealing with it all. I’m not saying I don’t have any problems but I’m not violent, angry etc like him. If they would only help themselves it would be better.

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Thanks Stronglife, he has managed to give up alcohol now as he got very sick one night. I noticed he drinks more coffee and sweet things now so realise he just needs something to cover how he feels. He has been less abusive but still has huge anger issues.

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Dear Mellow, you can use the Google translate app on your phone and voice recorder to translate what is being said. I have discovered my husband texting other countless women. He reassures me he doesn’t care about them and is just using them which makes me feel horrible. It’s not acceptable but I still seem to accept him.

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Have you tried church groups? Or if you have children, some family groups and then inviting someone for coffee after the next time? Volunteering at things can open up friendship opportunities.

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You are so strong being a carer for everyone. You know what you do, don’t let his words sink in. I know what it feels like when you’re not appreciated and do so much. It’s hard. I believe at least God sees your good works. Also you can’t do everything, it’s just not possible.

My husband has to be asked to help me too most of the time. He does it angrily and slowly mostly. Taking 2/3 days to wash a pan. Recently I have decided, if he doesn’t help with washing up we will have more microwave food until he notices and appreciates home cooking.

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Hi sad and alone,

I hear you, it sounds like you are making a lot of allowances and getting no respect or love in return.

I feel similar, my husband is constantly instructing me on what to do and even commands me to go and pick up his phone and pass it to him. Micro manages how I look after the baby but hardly ever does stuff for her.

He also gets so angry and calls me bad names when he feels he has to do inconvenient things.

I found watching you tube videos on (detail removed by Moderator) abuse very useful.

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I don’t think good men play these games, if he is giving you a bad feeling you should stop it while you can.

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I feel the same about my husband. How can they be nice and nasty? Completely understand you.

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This sounds just like my husband too. He gets angry at very stupid things. Uncontrolled rage. (detail removed by moderator) How can I bring up our baby daughter around him. (detail removed by moderator) He rages and calls me stupid. I can’t seem to stop him with that or swearing all the time. Feeling sad he can’t control his temper. What’s wrong with him?

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