Mrsbluesky99

[Mrsbluesky99]

Absolutely guys ..

He is blocked! Thanks but no thanks.

[Mrsbluesky99]

I’d say so bit weird to say the least why would he have an issue with your family knowing where you are? Did u ask this question … I’d say a red flag yep.

[Mrsbluesky99]

I don’t really have much advice Buttercup but I do know how you feel. I didn’t have any say in the matter (detail removed by Moderator).

I was terrified about an escalation I won’t lie but I cranked up the security on my house cameras locks etc. The police put a couple of things in order for me my mobile number and address was to come up as an urgent assistance request if I was to call and male members of my family basically on call and ready to help if need be.

My ex had been to prison on previous occasions said it didn’t bother him to go back so you can see my concern .. The restraining order in the early days he did break about three or four times contacting me through a mutual friend but it DID work he didn’t come near me or my property again and that’s you what you want.

Some years have gone by since this ..though still fairly recent start of Covid and I’ve not heard anything now for a long time so I feel I am out of it. So just to say really it DID help in my situation.

I do wish you all the best for the future just get what you can in place to protect you that you feel comfortable with and hopefully in time to come this will all just be one bad memory for you same as it is to me.

All The Best .. x

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Hey 🙂

This is without a doubt both abusive and toxic. I think if your situation was to be evaluated by the police you would probably be coming in at ‘high risk’ …

I don’t mean to scare you I was in this exact same position a few years ago. I would if I was you close down any social media accounts for the time being, E Mail and so forth … Change your phone number, And definitely go to the police and tell them everything you’ve said on here and get a legal document in place preventing him from contacting you again.

All the best with this .. I know how hard it is but I feel you really need to advise the police.

Take Care.

[Mrsbluesky99]

Awwww buttercup I don’t post much on here but I went through a lot of what you did too. The physical stuff and being thrown out of his flat early hours of the morning miles away from home ( we didn’t live together though I stayed there mostly) in my pj’s no money no phone no nothing .. I didn’t drive either so literally stuck until he decided I was allowed back in .. Thrown out onto a busy high street. Honestly it was horrendous the abuse shocking. I’m a good couple of years plus out now and it does lessen the intensity of the trauma over time. Be kind to yourself eat well sleep well meditation perhaps … it’ll help in your recovery. Big hugs all the best. Just wanted you to know this all happened to me too your not alone xx

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Safety first and paramount. Please leave you can deal with house pets etc from afar you don’t need to be there to do it. Your and your child’s safety is all that matters right now in this instance … I know it’ll be emotionally gut wrenching to up and leave your home belongings etc but you do not want to become another statistic and your child needs you here physically and emotionally well … I think you know what you have to do. All The Best.

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❤️ Thank you all x

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Bless you your so very brave. I was in this position too and I’ll never forget the fear. He was arrested even though I hadn’t wanted that course of action (detail removed by Moderator). It turned out better that way it didn’t feel this way at the time though. I’m now free and doing ok but I just wanted you to know I think your very brave coz it really is a scary time. I hope it all works out well.

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This was the final straw with my Ex .. He bit me. This is savage and feral behaviour and I honestly believe you need to pack up your belongings and get the heck out of there right away while your able and still in one piece. This is a very dangerous and unhinged individual your dealing with. Contact Women’s Aid right now and don’t put it off please your life depends on it stay safe.

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I literally could of wrote this myself even the waking up in the night with said person and thinking how the hell am I going to get out of this. I did leave it hasn’t been plain sailing but getting there .. Not much advice to give really just wanted to say your not alone. All the best.

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Hey.. I reported to the police it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I was petrified but he really left me no choice. He admitted what he’d done so I didn’t have to go which was such a relief. He was handed a suspended prison sentence and I was given a (detail removed by Moderator) year restraining order, I felt a little safer with this in place although it’s not always the case some abusers do not take lightly to this and seek revenge. It was seriously the scariest time of my life .. and the getting out was the easy part we didn’t live together thankfully .. it was the coming months the trauma all coming crashing down the horrific realisation is very hard. I wasn’t prepared.. So I would say if your planning on leaving get some sort of counselling lined up too if your able .. I almost had a breakdown. I’m doing better now so time does help.

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Hey KIP

I know your right my family wasn’t too happy I chose to not report also. I was just so drained and tired and scared with it all .. I still am. And Christmas/New Year I just felt I couldn’t handle police and the questions etc over the holidays .. Ruining everything. And coz of the suspended sentence I was scared of getting him put in there and coming out more mad that I’d done that to him (even though he would of done it himself but not in his eyes) so up until now I’ve left it but I have a feeling his mindset will be ‘oh well she hasn’t so far so I’ll carry on’ It’s just awful KIP. I suffer terrible anxiety and depression since all of this. We wasn’t even together that long prob best part of (detail removed by Moderator) that’s it. How women endure this for years .. No idea it’s so very sad.

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Hey Dolly

After reading your post it just resonated with me so much I felt a need to respond. I was exactly at the place you currently find yourself in right now. Emotion wise anyway, I have no idea if he met someone new though I expect so .. I went no contact. I left (detail removed by Moderator) after a physical attack and by the end of (detail removed by Moderator) he had gotten himself a suspended jail sentence and me a (detail removed by Moderator) year restraining order .. Which he has broken (detail removed by Moderator) times may I hasten to add .. Over the Christmas period an I love you and an I miss you message. I’ve not reported this though now I’m thinking I maybe should have. It was Christmas emotions were running high and he was probably drunk. But I just want you to know after (detail removed by Moderator) months almost if this unbearable pain and grief .. I felt every single thing you mentioned the intensity the soul mate feeling the sex .. I am starting to feel a little better. Not much but an improvement I am feeling so I’m hoping for full recovery. Don’t be envious of this new woman .. Eventually she will be exactly where your st now she has it all to come mark my words. If anything feel sympathy for her coz like so many of us right at this moment in time she has absolutely no idea about how her life is going to be destroyed in the very near future .. It’s so sad. She’d more than likely be like us .. Just looking for love. It isn’t gonna happen Dolly. Just let your feelings come I know how hard this is but just don’t reach out however horrendous you feel. Keep pushing ahead .. Your not alone x

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