Sallysally

[Sallysally]

Thankyou so much x
I have started reacting back to the constant aggression,
& then I am called the abusive one

[Sallysally]

I am in the same mess right now
Living with a partner who got angry about how I cook vegetables & puts his hands round my throat & squeezes

Since then has grabbed my arm so hard it has been covered in bruises.
I feel deeply ashamed & unable to tell my daughter as I have already left her abusive dad
Then he tells me I am mentally disturbed?
He has persuaded me to move (detail removed by Moderator) miles away from my daughter & sign a joint tenency. I am too scared of him to say no? Every time I say I dont want to he gets angry? He also knows where my daughter lives

I hope one day I will be strong enough to leave
I just feel too exhausted to fight him and go

[Sallysally]

Thankyou x
Yes unfortunately at the moment I am still there?
He took advantage of the depression I went through after leaving my husband, I mistook it for kindness
He pushed me around a few times, & i was so low i didnt care
When he scares me i scream & he says i am mentally disturbed from my marriage & he will look after me 😓
I think he is more clever than my husband
He can be very nasty & swears at me if I dont clean the house how he wants, then he acts like it was me who made him do it?
I am planning how to leave when I am able
Thankyou for your support x

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My husband was like yours before I left, I was advised by a counsellor it would be better for my grown up kids leaving. He was good to them for (detail removed by moderator) until a girlfriend appeared, then he started on them
You had better leave your life is in danger, I never want to set eyes on you ever again, I am going to report you to the judge & you will be locked up for seeing your mum
Once an abuser always a abuser
It was never about me & I have realised

 

 

[Sallysally]

Many thanks
I have a lot to learn about healthy relationships
He makes me feel too ashamed to reach out and tell my daughters or work collegues

[Sallysally]

Thankyou
No harm taken x
I just am grateful that you guys understand & have a sympathetic ear. I have no one else x

[Sallysally]

The counsellor has reported me and not my daughter
I am (detail removed by moderator) away from my home still living in hiding from my husband

My (detail removed by moderator) year old daughter wanted to stay with her dad when I had to leave
It took him (detail removed by moderator) before he started being nasty to her too, on & off
I have supporting her in secret & been helping her to find somewhere to live which i am hoping should happen in the next 6 wks, she has an emergency plan
In the last couple of weeks he has found out she saw me (detail removed by moderator) & has threatened to endanger her life if she stays, then he cools down & acts like normal

[Sallysally]

The abuse charity

[Sallysally]

Thankyou for your kind replies x

No I am not getting any support at the moment
I know this sounds strange but i am not keen to get rid of the boyfriend as he is my only security? although I dont trust him now, he really scared me at the time, but has gone back to his normal self, he says it is my fault for winding him up which I did, because I am sick of him saying my cooking doesnt meet his high standards
I have tried contacting a local service but it has been difficult as I am always at work or with boyfriend when they phone
still getting threats from ex hubbie who is also threatening (detail removed by moderator_ We dont want to move into a refuge as waiting for (detail removed by moderator), then hoping to be able to afford to move 100 miles away, do not have any money left from the divorce

I have told the counsellor i have moved away for a job so wont be going back. I dont feel able to tell her stuff anymore
I will try & and give the charity another ring tommorow at work x

[Sallysally]

Thankyou for your your advice
I am very proud that she is being so brave about her dad
Much braver than I have ever been
& that she sees him for what he is

[Sallysally]

Thankyou Hetty
I will try x

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Thanks guys
Phoned a womens domestic abuse local centre & they are offering a case worker
I will phone the police if he kicks off again

I have refused to cook, make coffee, wash up as this is a major source of his anger
I have tried to say to him why would he want to stay with me if I am not good enough?

[Sallysally]

Thankyou
I am trying to pack stuff without him knowing but will have to try & rent somewhere for now so will take a few weeks to sort it out

[Sallysally]

Thankyou
I have my daughter who is going to be homeless because of her abusive dad
My family are abusive too

Trouble is he just laughs it off like I am exaggerating & I am mad,
I am under alot of pressure right now as trying to divorce my abusive ex
I am sure he would even talk the police around

I feel so ashamed of myself it has happened again?
I will try & phone womens aid tommorow x

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Well done for rebuilding your life with such positivity!
I have been moving some of my stuff out of my house gradually into a friends garage hoping my husband is not going to notice
I know I can only take the essentials and a few sentimental things
the rest I will have to leave behind
It is hard not being able to tell my grown up children until I am safely away from him
I am hoping to be out in the next few days or so

You have given me hope that my life after such a very long marriage will be better
I will also buy a primrose to put on the window -sill
I will think of all you brave women that have inspired me to escape when I look at it

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