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    • #129036
      Falling Skys
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      Hi Daff

      I’ve not been on for a while, you have lost material things but you will be able to get that back over time.

      But what you do have is your sanity and things will get better. This is a great site that will give you support, keep posting.

      FS xx

    • #97062
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thanks FL. I have found a couple of things, lol the first one I was the only that turned up but I was so nervous it was just as well. The second one was for coffee but everyone new everyone else so I just went… I will try again..

    • #96751
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Hi fl. what are meet up sites? Not sure where to find out about it? FS x

    • #96704
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thanks Cecile

      Just took an offer from a neighbour for a cuppa, it went well.

      FS xx

    • #94775
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thank you ladies for the feed back.

      Because of my past I don’t have any friends. My ex only let me mix with his friends. So after the decades we were together none of mine are left. So I think I will use this year to make up a new network. Though not sure how. (Any ideas) where I use to go this other man uses them too. May be i should pop into the woman’s group near me and see if they have any ideas?

      Join a slimming group last week as I have been comfort eating.

      I didn’t know being out would be so hard.

      Thank you for your support and find words.

      Last thing I need is getting red of an abuser to replace him with another.

      FS xx

    • #94735
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thank you ladies, I don’t think I will ever find anyone that will treat me well.

      I see my brother and his wife and I want what they have.

      FS xx

    • #94689
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      No he’s not with her on line, its to do with finances and business that he’s still there.

      But maybe I have had it all wrong.

      I just felt we had something special, or maybe I was just a project to get independent.

      FS 🙁

    • #94668
      Falling Skys
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      Thanks Kip,

      I have meet his siblings but not his children, social media I don’t put any info as I don’t past knowing my future.

      Being in the same house as ex was the same for me for many years so I didn’t think of it unusual.

      We spent Christmas Day and New Years Eve so if he and ex was together it wouldn’t have been able to happen.

      FS x

    • #91492
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thank you both xx

      So true, they abuse to the end. (flash backs are here again, but I’ve got over it before so I will again)

      FSxx

    • #91464
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thanks DM. I thought I had got stronger over this part of my life but I’m not. In fact it’s hurting me more than ever. Or maybe I was numb before and now my true feelings are being felt. FSx

    • #91441
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thanks Kip,

      This is the only place that I know I’m not alone and understood. Like you I have stop communication but gave my children away to contact me.

      Thank you for the hug its is needed today.

      FS xx

    • #87913
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      After trying to sale the family home for numerous years my ex accepted a stupid offer, which I was able to match. Though he didn’t like it, in the end I bought him out.

      I gave it a deep clean, a lick of paint and sold it within a month. (making a profit, that paid for the moving costs and the solicitors fees for the divorce which seemed apt)

      I was pleased to live there for a while to put ghosts to rest, but I have a house that has no past.

      FS xx

    • #87912
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Hi,

      Big hugs, because I feel that you need one.

      You are far from a loser, you are living in an emotional roller-coaster and he is using the pet and your child to keep you on edge, its so difficult to make any movement towards freedom while you are just trying to survive the day.

      My ex told me I couldn’t leave and I took it, and so stayed for years. Tomorrow it an anniversary of my freedom.

      All I can say that the further you can get away from him the clearer your mind will become.

      FS xx

    • #87511
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      I felt guilty, I didn’t think he would go with another woman so when I got free I didn’t make a statement to the police as I stupidly thought he would be content with controlling our children.

      But I have had to put it back to the back of my head, my only hope for her is that there is more out on social media and news about abuse and she wont stay as long as I did.

    • #87918
      Falling Skys
      Participant

      Thanks Escapee xx FS

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