Falling Skys

[Falling Skys]

Hi Daff

I’ve not been on for a while, you have lost material things but you will be able to get that back over time.

But what you do have is your sanity and things will get better. This is a great site that will give you support, keep posting.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Thanks FL. I have found a couple of things, lol the first one I was the only that turned up but I was so nervous it was just as well. The second one was for coffee but everyone new everyone else so I just went… I will try again..

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Hi fl. what are meet up sites? Not sure where to find out about it? FS x

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Thanks Cecile

Just took an offer from a neighbour for a cuppa, it went well.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Thank you ladies for the feed back.

Because of my past I don’t have any friends. My ex only let me mix with his friends. So after the decades we were together none of mine are left. So I think I will use this year to make up a new network. Though not sure how. (Any ideas) where I use to go this other man uses them too. May be i should pop into the woman’s group near me and see if they have any ideas?

Join a slimming group last week as I have been comfort eating.

I didn’t know being out would be so hard.

Thank you for your support and find words.

Last thing I need is getting red of an abuser to replace him with another.

FS xx

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Thank you ladies, I don’t think I will ever find anyone that will treat me well.

I see my brother and his wife and I want what they have.

FS xx

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No he’s not with her on line, its to do with finances and business that he’s still there.

But maybe I have had it all wrong.

I just felt we had something special, or maybe I was just a project to get independent.

FS 🙁

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Thanks Kip,

I have meet his siblings but not his children, social media I don’t put any info as I don’t past knowing my future.

Being in the same house as ex was the same for me for many years so I didn’t think of it unusual.

We spent Christmas Day and New Years Eve so if he and ex was together it wouldn’t have been able to happen.

FS x

[Falling Skys]

Thank you both xx

So true, they abuse to the end. (flash backs are here again, but I’ve got over it before so I will again)

FSxx

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Thanks DM. I thought I had got stronger over this part of my life but I’m not. In fact it’s hurting me more than ever. Or maybe I was numb before and now my true feelings are being felt. FSx

[Falling Skys]

Thanks Kip,

This is the only place that I know I’m not alone and understood. Like you I have stop communication but gave my children away to contact me.

Thank you for the hug its is needed today.

FS xx

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After trying to sale the family home for numerous years my ex accepted a stupid offer, which I was able to match. Though he didn’t like it, in the end I bought him out.

I gave it a deep clean, a lick of paint and sold it within a month. (making a profit, that paid for the moving costs and the solicitors fees for the divorce which seemed apt)

I was pleased to live there for a while to put ghosts to rest, but I have a house that has no past.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Hi,

Big hugs, because I feel that you need one.

You are far from a loser, you are living in an emotional roller-coaster and he is using the pet and your child to keep you on edge, its so difficult to make any movement towards freedom while you are just trying to survive the day.

My ex told me I couldn’t leave and I took it, and so stayed for years. Tomorrow it an anniversary of my freedom.

All I can say that the further you can get away from him the clearer your mind will become.

FS xx

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I felt guilty, I didn’t think he would go with another woman so when I got free I didn’t make a statement to the police as I stupidly thought he would be content with controlling our children.

But I have had to put it back to the back of my head, my only hope for her is that there is more out on social media and news about abuse and she wont stay as long as I did.

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Thanks Scarecrow

I am getting there, as time had gone on I was questioning how bad it was so made be in a strange way it was good that I had these nightmares.

Its good that its fades, but as they say less we forget. But it has made me want to be in contact with you survivors as its only people that have been through it can understand it.

FSxx

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Thanks FL

Since vocalising on here I haven’t had any more nightmares or feelings of being inadequate.

FS x

[Falling Skys]

Thanks FL

To gain so much I have also lost so much, I thought I would grow old with a loving family.

But now I have a single womans life, which I do enjoy but totally different to how I saw myself.

Maybe thats whats going on now I can grieve.

xx

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It seemed that every time I got to the point to leave he would sense it and be Mr Wonderful to the point I doubted myself and my feelings. But now looking back at it he was never right.

FS xx

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Thanks KIP, I do have an odd wobble but what I have now I wish for all of you.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Thank you both xx and enjoy your holiday BTBF xx

[Falling Skys]

Thanks KIP

Happy Mothers Day to you too.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Hi

I also work full time and though my employer was understanding about the meetings i found that when I returned to work I was unable to function because of the emotions it stirred up.

Though not ideal I attended when I was on leave.

This site was a great support.

You have done the right thing on getting pit.

FS

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Thank you FTC and HS

I had the most peace Christmas Day no traumas, my friend and I cooked together something that would have never happened in the past. So enjoying the little things.

Hope your Christmas’s have gone well.

FS xx

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Hi Lisa

Thank you xx

FS x

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Understand completely xx what we got was beyond our comprehension. But it will get easier it’s getting through all the firsts.

Chrismas is just a day with hype.

FS xx

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Dear Benson

Don’t doubt yourself you did the right thing for your child and yourself.

I have stop contact with friends so it will make it harder for me to be found.

A cosy Christmas isn’t a bad thing, you can use it as a time for new traditions doing what ever you want.

Don’t be hard on yourself things will get better.

FS x

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Dear IWMB and IWMTSI

Thank you for your replies.

FS xx

[Falling Skys]

Hi

Are you still with him? If so its more about him not getting your inheritance.

Mine was always making thing hard for me with my family and friends.

Hugs

FS x

[Falling Skys]

Hi

This is a hard one for us on so many levels.

On a personal level I don’t mix business with pleasure but that is your chose.

There is no rush on having another relationship and do not feel pressured by society to do anything your not ready for.

If you want go out for coffee and have a chat.

All the best

FS x

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Thanks Escapee xx FS

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