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Living in the moment would be fantastic. It’s like trying to teach myself to walk again. My ex did all the typical narcissistic things including love bombing etc. And at the time it seemed romantic, we were living together within 2months. My current relationship is so much different. Nearly 2 years together, don’t live with each other nor has it been discussed. Obviously I know there’s several factors, the distance from each other and of course the kids. Both our children have been through a lot emotionally etc. I am happy but there’s always the fear. What if he decides to go back to his kids mum? What if he decides to find a woman that lives closer? Etc all worries that pop up. Of course I suffer from anxiety which began years ago around the time I got with my ex so it does play a part in my overthinking. I have started talking about things more now. Occasionally I open up about these things with my partner but I still hold a lot back so as not to completely bombard him. We don’t get a lot of time together so I try keep time spent as positive as possible

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It’s not his behaviour making me feel anxious. I’m just feeling this way in general. For instance, all the rest of the time he treats me well, we get on brilliantly and have so much in common. He is generally an open book and very honest. I sometimes feel like, is it too good to be true. I don’t think he intentionally set out to make me feel bad. He is a man with what u call a barrier up due to his ex cheating. Part of me thought maybe he informed so that there wasn’t any secrets

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I honestly have the ladies on this forum to thank. Some of the advice helped me through some really tough times. I’ve also had alot of family support too. Its amazing what we achieve with time

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Thank you everyone for your lovely supportive messages. I think I’m just going through a difficult point at the moment and at moments when I’m feeling lonely I’ve made rushed decisions. Baby steps

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I’ve found it difficult and I was on such a high when I was getting the attention. But I know now that I’m not ready for everything that goes with it. I’ve Also asked my gp for help with counselling

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3rd party are now getting introduced for the kids. After speaking to the social worker she clearly stated what I already knew. That being he has no place dictating. He wasn’t happy to hear the new terms. Sent abusive messages. Apparently (detail removed by moderator) my home. I honestly think he lives in his own little world where nothing can touch him and he can have his own set of rules. Silly man

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Its something I’m going to speak to the social worker about. Hes even started saying I can’t have the kids see my family. All because my (detail removed by moderator). He said they cant see them

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Its just the fact that hes willing to make things up in retaliation. When all they want is to see that he needs help with his drinking as that’s their biggest concern. My previous partner who I have my oldest children to has clearly stated that I’m a good mum and he has no issues with me. So what exactly does my husband think he can say against me. If he agrees to social workers terms he can see them over Christmas but if he doesn’t and puts up a fight he won’t. And that’s out of my hands. He doesn’t see the bigger picture and what is best for the kids

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So the social worker came for a visit. Spoke to the kids. But my youngest was with his dad. She wasn’t happy about this after receiving all the information. She made me go collect my son from his dad. He wasn’t happy. Threatening to take me to court. Threatening to get kids from me and make stuff up to the social worker to make me look bad. Was my birthday (detail removed by moderator) too.what a birthday

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Well I put my form in to the court to get the order put into place. I’ve said it’s one to be rushed due to the nature. So hopefully I can get it sorted sooner rather than later

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Hes demanding I go back with the kids. I’m not backing down. Hes threatened to take the kids before so I don’t trust him. I’m applying for a residence order but I’m worried about what could happen while I wait for it. I’m leaving them off of school this last week cos I’m scared he’ll go get them. At the same time I feel bad not allowing him to see them

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Oh I intend to make a massive change. Thanks to everyone for all the advice and support. And kip your advice on almost all my posts have been so helpful. If only I had took note the first time. I really couldn’t have come this far without the support of everyone on this forum. I know I’ve still a long way to go but I am forever grateful xx

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I was humming and arring all day today as to whether to tell police everything. And then he started. All because I refuse to clean up after him and make his dinner. He started shouting, calling me names telling me hes not leaving. And I need to go instead. Then saying if I go (detail removed by moderator) tell them I’m lying. He then started saying how I’m a (detail removed by moderator) cos he knows I got the police here. It’s made me more determined to speak openly with the police but also equally as scared

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All he kept going on about was (detail removed by moderator). I mean to be honest he was stood with a (detail removed by moderator) so yeah…I’d look at him funny. Now he just keeps asking random questions about the police or making comments about how he still finds it odd. The police have really handled it badly at the moment

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I don’t have any bad feelings regarding him. And I am very weary. I’ve become more aware of what to look for and I feel like I am a much stronger person. I do feel optimistic and all I know is that we get on, he treats me well which I haven’t had in such a long time. I do have a very open mind and am enjoying what it is at the moment. Yes I have days where what happened in the past sneaks it’s way into my thoughts but I guess with time it will get better. But I’m definitely not going to tar him with the same brush. We’ll see what happens. If it’s meant to be it will be I guess

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