Shelly123

[Shelly123]

Thanks everyone, wasnt sure if was abuse or not. I have been to my gp and going to ring my health visitor in the morning. I did try womens aid and it was ringing for so long i chickend out. I will try again. I have been seeing a therapist and they have helped alot. I just feel a failure to my baby and i try gard to maintain the relationship for babys sake. I also have a diary which has everythinh documented. All texts are saved i feel like a mug as i have messaged back practicly begging for him to see the baby or for him to just care about the baby and a few angry messages in there, so dont know how that would look in court. Thank you so much for your advice xx

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Thanks Kip, we were doing pick up/drop off between a third party but they couldnt do some of the times which is why he has had to drop her back to me. I have a diary of any contact we have i have also asked him for set days as he can see her (detail removed by moderator). I saw him yesterday but he was ok as people were there he just does it when no one is around. Im just fed up and need to pull myself out of this hole. I feel awful for bringing my baby into this.

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Thank you i have taken time to read around trauma bonds and i definatly think it applys to me.

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Thank you so much for your replys i feel much better this evening. I will be booking an appointment with my gp i will try pluck up the confidence to ring the helpline. I have a bit of evedience but because i reacted to it at first they may see me as being in the wrong. I under no circumstances react anymore i just close the door but it still affects me x

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Thanks for your reply. We tried handover through third party but they couldnt always be available which is why he has been up to the house to drop baby off. I try not to react. Will contact my health visitor and see what she says.

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I recentally had counselling and it did me wonders i felt i couldnt open up and once i was in there i just let everything out and after the first session it felt like a weight was lifted off my shouders. It may make you feel worde for a short period of time but then you should start to feel abit better. I felt as it was a stranger they wernt judging or having a certain opinion on the situation i could just go in there and cry/ rant away x

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Thank you just read all messages. I have cut contact and i have a lot of family support. Im currently documenting everything. Its true the hormones are still going things that wouldnt normally bother me are bothering me. Thanks for your messages ladies x

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Thank you im going to speak with the health visior and ask about that. The abuse is to much and switching it round on me is not good. 8 feel stronger now the baby is here but i also feel more emotional. I forgave him for a lot of stuff but i feel like this is the final straw

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Keep a copy of all emails can you speak with a health visitor if you have one and raise your concerns?

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Please look after yourself is there anyway you can ring 999 out of earshot. Please let us know you are ok. If you manage to get to the hospital please speak with someone there x

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Great news x

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Well done best of luck at college x

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Hiya, Its a hard one as you know what she is going through personally i wouldnt get in touch with her you dont know what kind of emotions or feelings it may stir up and you wouldnt want to put yourself in that place again when you have managed to get away once. You also may try and help her and she may not want the help where would that leave you? Im going with your family memeber and saying leave the past in the past x

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Sorry to hear about the psycologist doing that maybe your daughters way of openeing up was first talking about her friends and when she could trust him then she would open up about her dad. Sometimes they just see it as a quick solution rather than trying to understand how your daughter works. Hope you and your daughter are ok could you maybe see if she could see someone else that is willing to take the time with her? X

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Hi he came and basically said that im playing games by not having him there and i would have to explain to the baby when there older why he wasnt there. He doesnt see it as intimidating me he sees it as me playing games so he spreads rumours before i say a thing. Hes told his family loads and i was actually really close to his family and they all turned on me without knowing the truth.

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