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    • #158991
      Sunshineee
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      Hi I’m glad you now have freedom and choices and that therapy helped you. I had therapy after I left the relationship, and it was great really helped. However we didn’t touch much on this kind of thing, so maybe I should think about therapy again x

    • #132365
      Sunshineee
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      Autocorrect I meant anything not “smirking”

    • #132364
      Sunshineee
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      He abused me and went to prison, the abuse was all at me. But said threatening things about our Child and never did smirking for her when I was with him. Would all the evidence from the abuse I suffered not be taken into account? And the threatening things he said about our child were verbal so that’s my word against his isn’t it?

    • #125982
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      Thank you very much x

    • #114891
      Sunshineee
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      For me, the thought of going to court was worse than actually being there. First arriving it’s a little daunting, your nervous etc which is normal. You can request a screen around the perpetrator or you can do it via video link in another room so you don’t have to see them. The police were amazing with me, the detective never left my side she held my hand (literally) through the entire thing. The judge was lovely and polite to me and all the staff made me feel very at ease, everyone was on my side. It’s a very powerful thing to do, being able to speak out and go to court and powerful is what you’ll feel afterwards. Lots of love and good luck to you x

    • #114811
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      Vex King – Good vibes, good life.

      It’s amazing❤️ Life changing read x

    • #109082
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      I contacted my local MP to help
      Me in fighting the early release but it didn’t work, he’s out now I received the call today…what a day is all I can say. I might look into seeing if I can get him moved, speak to Idas and the gp and local council are what they say. I feel Iv done so much fighting for months and months to get justice and I ensure my safety and I am so utterly exhausted now the more I’m fighting against stuff the more I’m falling apart.

    • #109026
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      He can come back to the same area Iv been told even though I appealed that he couldn’t however, restrictions of the area have been put in place…not convinced he will stick to these as he has no respect for the law & has broken things like this in the past. An emergency alert is a good suggestion!

      None of this is ideal for my mental health, I feel like I’m crumbling more & more everyday.

    • #108922
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      I have support from IDAS & practical support is being arranged in terms of safety. I’m reluctant to see my GP as I don’t have a click with just one you see someone different every time you go, I always bottle it when I think of calling them. I was in touch with a private counselling a month back, she said she’d be in touch to speak to me for a second time but never did, I text her & no reply.

      I don’t want to feel pushed out of my home because of him, Iv not been here long and made it my own & cosy. I have plans for university, my friends and family are here, I have a baby to think of I can’t just up and go that would never work.

    • #104063
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      Thank you for the support everybody, I was having a really dark day, one of many. But I’m feeling better this week. Every day/ week is so different and it gets quite exhausting. It’s the worst feeling in the world feeling like you’d be better off dead, but I know this really is not the answer x

    • #102857
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      Update: He set up a Facebook account and (detail removed by moderator) he sent me some very abusive & derogatory messages, I was so shocked! & also very upset because he flipped out at me before but this was a whole new level and I haven’t experienced something this bad since my ex obviously. Iv blocked him on there too x

    • #107170
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      Fight song is so empowering, really gives me that boost on the days I need it x

    • #107168
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      I think Iv seen this too recently, it’s amazing❤️

    • #107167
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      I absolutely love Praying by Kesha the words are so close to home x

    • #105187
      Sunshineee
      Participant

      I love this one too! X

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