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So even the courts aren’t that helpful. To me it pubishes the kids further. I am planning to go on holiday for (detail removed by moderator). Told my x and said nicely (detail removed by moderator). Then the (detail removed by moderator) we will be back for him to have them. He’s now asked if he can come on holiday with us. I don’t want my holiday with him. All the photos, making memories. Meals together. Its took me years to break free. This would put me right in it. He’s already told the kids he want to come and he will (detail removed by moderator). The kids now think I’m the bad one for saying no. He could take them away the second d half and give them an amazing time. Arr why is life so hard.

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You seem like your really are getting the same treatment as me. I started divorce proceedings and he is using this to manipulate my child against me. It just never stops . Constant manipulation. The words the kids come home saying I can tell are his words. The kids told me not to (detail removed by moderator). Also going on about how it’s (detail removed by moderator). Its not stuff primary kids should say. My husband is a poison.. I’m lonely and keep thinking about life back with him and things like this make me realise I could never go back.

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Thank you. I feel like Im in a happy bubble it’s amazing . I was very fortunate. I had some money tucked away which has made thus easier. I know not everyone is as lucky. Thank you everyone for all your support and well wishes and I really hope you all make it to your happy place . Xx

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Hi . Thank you. So far he has actually left me alone. But he is playing games around my daughter . Clearly gaining his control needs around her.

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Or I can imagine.. I have been out since (removed by moderator) and I’m loving it. Before I was staying up late to avoid him or having extremely long baths just to avoid him. I found while I was in the same room he thought he could hug me or try it on . He didn’t get I didn’t want to be with him. It took me to actually leave for him to get it

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Hi everyone . Just an update
Thank you so much for your well wishes.. hubby hasn’t bothered me and I’m on day (detail removed by Moderator) !!!! Yey. But he has kept my child.. but I’m collecting them (detail removed by Moderator). I have had face time to explain where I am and reassure them it’s not them I left its him and that they are welcome to come. Miss the kids but still feels great to be out and make decisions for my self.

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That’s lovely. I have never been allowed out especially near men so I can appreciate how you feel. Well done for getting your life back x

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Thank you so much everyone.. 💓 just put up some flat pack furniture by myself which said needed 2 men.. hum just one women !!!!!

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As far as I’m aware we have no security on the house . So maybe phone or car. It just seemed suspicious. Made me a little bit unsettled. I’m thinking possible a neighbour.

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Hi its happening to me at the min. I was extremely close to hubby’s family due to him been co trolling only ever mixed with his family. I like to think they know what’s going on but feel obliged to side with there soon which I get.. luckily this hopefully won’t effect my kids as my husband is no threat to them so will keep good contact but its a shame as I thought of hos.family as my family. But I have excepted it and decided if they Contact me great . If not then that’s there choice. I’m lucky my nephews are grown up so rarely see them anyway so they won’t be bothered. Unfortunately blood is thicker then water. I think I’d side withy kids even if they were wrong. It’s your instinct. Not right but it happens.

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Might sound a bit personal. Are you in the same bedroom ? I’m lucky enough to have space so I’m in my (detail removed by moderator) empty room. I think it helped him realise it was over. He wouldn’t leave so I am. But couldn’t live the lie of sleeping next to him .

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Thanks everyone. The problem is I have more money which I want for Myne and the kids future. Lot for him.. we are married so that might back fire in my face but still freedom is priceless. Joyfully il have it soon. Its my daughter I worry about. She will blame me for blowing her world apart. Thanks everyone .. appreciate your support xx

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Hi I have sought advice. I Have had 3 initial free visits with the same solicitor but because they were spaced out over the years I haven’t had to pay yet. They were amazing this last time due to divorce changes he advised me to do it online tend then come back to him for the financial side. I was pleasantly surprised.

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It is so hard. He’s been nice to me . How he treats me in that sense is lovely. It’s the fact he controls my life. He is very rarely nasty to me and never hits me which is what makes this so hard . He’s a devoted partner . It’s the fact I have no social life and he’s preventing me care for my child. It’s just so hard. Thank you for your comment . It’s reassuring you feel the same . I actually have nots in my chest about it . Like I’m the villain .

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Yes that’s exactly how I see it. They still keep the power. There seems to never be an escape.

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