Caledonia6

[Caledonia6]

Hi, it’s not easy making that first step and people don’t really understand that. It took me
2 years to seek help from women’s aid.
My sister who has helped me enormously emotionally is now pulling back a bit. I understand it’s not easy for people supporting someone going through dV as they see it as being black and white where it’s just not that simple.
If you feel like you can get in touch with women’s aid they have been a great support to me.
Take care

[Caledonia6]

Thanks for all the lovely replies. It helps to know I’m not the only one experiencing this

[Caledonia6]

Thank you, I know deep down he’s only repeating things his father has said to me. My counsellor told me he’s basically his fathers puppet and nothing will change while I still live in this house. That’s the reason I’m working towards leaving

[Caledonia6]

My husband grew up with a father who ruled the roost. His Mother was very submissive. he was also extremely spoiled growing up

[Caledonia6]

I’m receiving counselling but it’s still really hard.
My son is blaming me for his dad’s outbursts which makes me feel worse.

One minute he’s nice, then he changes.
Then there’s the arguing, I’m dreaming of a life where things are calm.

[Caledonia6]

Thank you it helps to know other people know what I’m going through.

[Caledonia6]

Hi, good on you for taking that first step ,it really helps to talk. At first it’s difficult to open up as we are often in denial and then scared of talking about what’s going on.
It’s always good to have someone you trust that you can confide in.
Take care

[Caledonia6]

Hi, I can imagine it must be hard no longer having your parents around. I think a lot of women in our situation feel very lonely. I no longer have any friends they chose to distance themselves as they think I should leave my husband . I look at that as being on them not me.
Have you thought of having some counselling sessions ? I’ve found them to be very helpful. Maybe have a chat with your GP (I’m going tomorrow)
It’s a vicious cycle that is very hard to get out of. It’s all about power and it leaves us feeling worthless and doubting our own sanity.
Keep telling yourself there’s nothing wrong with you it’s all on him.
Take care

[Caledonia6]

I am still living with husband and feel I’m constantly ill. Have wondered about the connection between what I’m living and physical health.

[Caledonia6]

Good on you for the progress you’ve already made you should feel proud of yourself

[Caledonia6]

Oh my goodness I suffer from most of those things too.
How are you getting on now you’ve left?

[Caledonia6]

I should also have mentioned he has no boundaries when it comes to relationship with other women (mainly co workers wives or clients ) he is a shoulder to cry on for them, even when I say it makes me uncomfortable.

[Caledonia6]

This is exactly how I feel.
I hope one day soon I will be able to leave

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