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I think he is genuinely trying to fix it but it has put me in the position of the one who is causing the problem because I am not going along for the ride willingly. Being stubborn. I wonder how long he will tolerate that for xx

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No it isn’t ok. I like the way you put it so bluntly. I think a lot of it rings true. I don’t know how to leave xx

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Thank you for your responses. I think I am doubting he was ever abusive at all right now, he is being very self reflective and I just feel sorry for him and like it’s my fault for not getting on board and trying to fix it.
I just feel like a robot, responding to his advances but I can’t throw myself in. Hs has gone from hardly ever commenting on my appearance to telling me about 20 times a day how beautiful I am. I sound so ungrateful that I’m not into it!

@Deepwithin I have PM’d you xxx

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Definitely abusive my lovely xxx

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Just wanted to send some hugs and support. This sounds horrible. Have you spoken to WA? xx

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All very relatable @ineedcoffee journal is a good idea. You’re not going mad. Keep coming here to vent xxx

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I mean why ‘is’ it harder

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Parenting is hard at the best of times let alone during lockdown.
I think sometimes it is hard for them to manage their emotions and it comes out as anger sometimes.
I haven’t got the answers but just showing some solidarity as my kids lash out towards me too. I think they sense my anxiety and that is part of it.

Hugs xx

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I’m not surprised you feel that way! Big hugs xx

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Let it all out here my lovely xxx

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@iliketea I am feeling pretty much the same right now. I decided I wanted out. Told him I was unhappy and suggested separation as an option and overnight he became super Dad/husband.
I can’t explain how much of a head f#$k this is. One day feeling so sure you want to go and the next feeling like it’s just been your perception that was wrong all these years and now feeling pressured to switch your frame of mind into saving the relationship because otherwise it’s your fault that the relationship failed. Honestly I can relate to how you feel I too feel really down, depressed and trapped and I don’t know what to do. Please PM me if you want to chat, maybe we could help each other out. Thinking of you xxxxx

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You’re very brave. Just keep thinking of the reasons you’re doing this. When you start dounting, think about the main reason you’re leaving. Big hugs xxx

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Thank you @Kitkat44 hope you’re ok. Hugs to you xx

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That is exactly how it feels. I just don’t know what to do!?
Thank you for replying x

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Me too, the scales have tipped and I’m ready.
I’m so scared though. How do you do this? X

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