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Hello pinkheart💜

I’m so sorry you are going through a hard time at the moment. Recovery takes times, you are not only recovering physically but mentally and that takes time. Dont rush into anything your unsure off. Just take each day as it comes. If the books help then keep reading but if they aren’t don’t, I think maybe speaking to a therapist could be beneficial. I know sometimes it’s hard speaking out, but it helps a great deal. Don’t be too hard on yourself hun💜

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Hey Bettyboop💜

You’re totally right. In my case that’s what happened. My daughter now sees her dad for what he truly is. She understands that he manipulated her, all I want and wanted was for her to be happy and now she is. Xxx

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I couldn’t agree more. Its nice to know that we aren’t alone💗. It is, but my partner understands the kind of person he is, its been tough, theres been times we’ve talked about splitting up because of him, but thats what he wants. I gave him what he wanted for years, not anymore, he doesn’t control me anymore. Honestly i agree, being alone would be easier, but would you be happy? At the end of the day, you need to do whats best for you, you deserve to be happy💕. I say the same thing, my daughter will see him for who he truly is, just as your kids will see there dad for who he is. Its so sad because kids are so easily manipulated, you tell them something enough times they will eventually start to believe it. But like i say, they will see him for who he really is. Stay strong, i know its sometimes easier said than done, but we’re all here to support you. You are not alone in this❤️

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Good Morning Sande💕

I had this same trouble, so i know how your feeling. Its a hard situation, but remember your saying no for a reason. Your being sensible, your saying no when its needed. He needs to understand this, your children will then start to think “well if mummy says no, daddy will say yes”. Your trying to do the right thing as a parent, trying to protect them from harm. You’ve done nothing wrong x

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Good Morning💗.

It is completely normal to feel what you are feeling, being with someone who is abusive is hard, they make you feel like you need them, when infact its them who need you. People who have never been through what we’ve been through will not understand. Focus on yourself💗

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Hi Hazydayz💕,

Thank you, your not alone either. Im here if you ever need a talk💗

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Hey Fizzylem💜

To be honest I didn’t even think of them. It probably would have been a good idea at the time. But we just want to move on from it all, I just want her to be happy and not be worrying about things xxxx

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Hello Hazydayz💜

Well after all of that, and my lawyer advising me to send her for her contact. He has not seen her in (detail removed by moderator)! Shes come along so much, when she was seeing him. The tantrums were awful, although I understand this was because he would talk bad about me in front of her and make her go through all that horrible stuff. But she is doing so much better now, the school have seen a difference, my family have seen a difference and I have too. Our relationship is stronger than ever. He hasn’t even tried to get contact, which honestly I’m so glad about. All I wanted was for my daughter to have a relationship with her dad, it’s a shame that he’s let her down in so many ways. The cp told me that he would be charged with false allegations and wasting police time. So I have no idea if that’s happened or not xxxx

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Hey Kip💜

Well I did, I refused contact. My lawyer initially advised me to persuade her to go, which i didn’t understand after everything but we move so, I tried to persuade her and she didn’t want to go. I then said I wasn’t going to force my child, and now (detail removed by moderator) on she had no contact with her dad xxx

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Hello DIYmum💜

I wrote everything down, I mean everything. How much times I would call cp regarding my daughter, what the conversation consisted off. But it actually ended up in my favour, once the investigation was done, cp told me that they didn’t believe what had been said, but they need to take things like that seriously. They also told me that my ex would be charged with false allegations and wasting police time. Whether or not that has happened I have no idea, my daughter does not have any contact with her dad anymore, although I feel for my daughter I am so glad he’s out of our lives, especially because he was bribing her to lie, and that would have had a huge impact on her mental health. She’s doing a lot better at home (less tantrums) and doing so much better at school, everyone has told me they can see a difference. Xxxx

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Hey Flufuster💜,

Sounds like your having a really rough time, I know it’s hard but remember kids are so easily manipulated. I know it’s a hard pill to swallow. But in my case my ex was bribing our daughter so for example, if you say this we will take you here, or if you say this we will give you that, I say wee because his mum was a huge part of it aswell. I know it’s hard, but they will eventually realise how horrible of a person he is and they will realise the lies and the control. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty or anything. You have done nothing wrong, by the sounds of it you have been a good mum. As mums thats all we can do, try our best. Don’t give up, I was at that stage, telling everyone I couldn’t do it anymore and that he could just keep her, for that I was wrong, but I was in a hole and didn’t know what else I could do. Your doing amazing, just keep going and know that I’m always here if you need a chat, keep your chin up💜

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Hi iliketea💕.

Thank you so much for all the support 💜xxx

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Hi HazyDayz💕.

Im sorry i took so long to reply. I’ve just been enjoying the time with my daughter. She told me how much she missed me. Child Protection said that there was coaching involved. Which is what I tried to tell them all along, no one wanted to listen. Im so glad they can finally see who the bad one actually is and that i have my little girl back. Shes told me she doesn’t want to go back to his, but theres a court order in place, I don’t want to get into trouble but nor do i want him near her again for what hes put her through. I appreciate all your support. I won’t just leave, I’ll still support you through to the very end like all you amazing women have done 💜xxx

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Hi Bonnie💕,

You deserve so much more. I know that leaving is easier said than done. Hes blaming you for what hes doing, making it out to be your fault even though its not. You should speak to a solicitor or even go to your GP. You need to do whats best for you💗

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Hi Hazydayz💕

Thank you, i look forward to talking with you also🥰x

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