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    • #120337
      Madmam
      Participant

      Do you have a friend you can text who can ring the police on your behalf? If they ask for the domestic violence department they will take you seriously.

    • #120142
      Madmam
      Participant

      Yep my abusive ex owes me money but I’m happy to pay the price for silence from him.

      Blessed be 😇

    • #120087
      Madmam
      Participant

      Yep you’ve summed up exactly how I was/am feeling. BTW he is also not being very responsible meeting up with women while there’s a pandemic going on and we are being urged to stay away from each other. You should hold onto that too.

    • #120080
      Madmam
      Participant

      I posted recently about how my ex was on a dating ensure merely days after saying how much he missed me. It hurt I have to be honest.

      But honestly I think he is trying to be the first to have a partner again, like a race. Also, I think these men need someone to feed off. I imagine he is incredibly lonely, during this epidemic even more so. He moved on from his last relationship with me too fast but I ignored the red flags. It won’t go well for him.

      You have your child, so you are not alone and that probably kills him. I tell myself that everyday that at least I’m not stuck sitting alone like he is.

      Him persuing another girl isn’t a sign of what a catch he is, it’s a sign of how sad and lonely he is. Let him suffer. He deserves it.

    • #120014
      Madmam
      Participant

      Well done that’s amazing!

      Please read ‘why does he do that?’ like others have said, I spent a lot of time with my mouth hanging open, it’s like the author was writing about him!

      Stay strong and come on here if you’re feeling wobbly.

    • #119621
      Madmam
      Participant

      Thanks everyone.

      I do feel a very strong urge to warn his future victims. Unfortunately I’m not in the UK so I don’t think there is a law like Claire’s law here. I’ll check though.

      The photo of him looking so sweet, innocent and trustworthy makes my stomach turn. Ugh.

    • #119532
      Madmam
      Participant

      Thanks KIP.

      Yep I won’t contact him… No way.

      But amazing to think he was emailing me (detail removed by Moderator) days ago to say how much he missed me.

      I remember wondering whether he had moved on too quickly with me after his ex. If only I’d listened to my inner voice then, eh?

    • #119293
      Madmam
      Participant

      Hi,

      I have been talking to my ex’s ex and she has confirmed everything – we might as well have written the same emails.

      Scary.

      Stay safe x

    • #119097
      Madmam
      Participant

      Yes. There’s a part of me that still wants to make him and everybody who is fooled by him SEE.

      But, I can’t. And I think even he knows deep down what he’s like. Maybe 🤔

    • #119061
      Madmam
      Participant

      Thanks thistle!

      Well it turns out he got frustrated, tried to turn the tables on me and said I was harassing him, called me and my mother n********ts, then proceeded to block me 🙄

      I kinda knew he’d want to get the last word in, and now this last email he sent will be the only thing he will remember, that I was abusing him and he had to block me 🙄 typical behaviour from him. I’m annoyed that he managed to do this, on the last way of contact but what can you do. It has, and will always be, his loss.

    • #118755
      Madmam
      Participant

      👍

    • #118724
      Madmam
      Participant

      My eldest, when told I had broken up with my (not their dad), said ‘thank GOD for that mammy!’. That’s when I knew I did the right thing.

      Your kids might even say this was the best Christmas ever, because it was quiet and without fear. You helped make it so.

    • #118722
      Madmam
      Participant

      Vent away.

      I rang the (detail removed by moderator) last night and was treated like I was a bore to this lady. Even more of a kick in the teeth when you’re getting that reaction from a a woman. Hope she never has to deal with abuse. Lucky her.

      The advice I got was to shout louder. I’m not a shouter (ironically), but I’ll have learn to do it.

      Hope you’re OK.

    • #118697
      Madmam
      Participant

      Thanks for checking up on me girls.
      I’m still in shock at how the woman spoke to me on the phone. Like I was annoying her. She said there was no such thing as ‘marking a house’.

      I know I’m not in the UK but still, I’m shocked at how I was treated. I’ll ring later today to complain. I also explained that I had got my ex removed from the house (detail removed  by moderator) and they should have that on their records!

      It beggars belief.

    • #118661
      Madmam
      Participant

      I tried. They didn’t take me seriously. Omg.

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