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Also, you can get an emergency order to get him out potentially.

If you have trusted friends or family that he can’t manipulate they could make some calls for you, if you’re not able?

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I think you are not alone in that. We are all trying to look out for each other too, and many are very seriously worried about women trapped indoors this way.

What avenues of escape do you have? What ways of reaching out for help have you got?

Have you spoken to any support services already?

You can always call 999 if you have to get out urgently and feel at risk for yourself, or your children.

Do you have some things gathered in one place, essentials, in case you had to go suddenly? Especially children’s passports and birth certificates and red health books? Your own medical and official documents and a selection of essential clothing/money stash somewhere.

These are things you can do to be ready should you need to go, and might help you feel like you could all run out the door if you had to.

It can help to get the official documents and money out to somewhere trusted ahead of time so its safe.

Please speak to all those you can safely reach.

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Sorry, to services, not just refuges, but to all of the many services supporting women at this time of increased DA risk

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I’m with you of this one too alittlelost andthehopethatkills

It’s crushing when you’re let down by those you need to lean on in hard times.

Something will suddenly come to you I’m sure. Something from somewhere a sudden surge of energy and light to just do it.

Stay safe

Standing right beside you.

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I’m horrified theres so much evidence against him yet he has your child.

Please contact Rights of Women for free legal advice for exactly this kind of situation.

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He is breaking orders if hes deciding for you or your parents what is safe for you or your parents.

write this evidence to court, giving dates and copying any texts or emails, written evidence, to them.

It is clearly overly controlling for him to decide whos at risk or not and base withdrawal of contact on that.

I am so sorry for your situation. I hope you can keep using evidence of his controlling behaviour to show the courts who he is and get their decision turned around.

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Thank you very much Lisa for your words of support.

Lavenderrose, its not ok to lie, but it wont be the first time, or any different from all the other times.

I would suggest that if he does this you get your little one back, as the govt says children move between families, and hes even more likely to not look after your child if he really is ill.

Bathe child and put all clothes straight in wash.

Leave coats out for 3 days for any virus to become inactive.

Stay well all x

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Please express your very real and proper worries to your own key worker.

Kwy workers running the refuge will want to make refuge a safe place for all.

I am sorry that you are currently facing this.

It can be taken on board very easily.

Take care and hope you feel safe soon x

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To back up what they’ve evidenced and to support your claims I mean.

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Witnesses statements are evidence. Ask all whether they are happy to provide statements to this effect.

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Yes I agree

Keep your evidence, keep strong in the face of his bullying, not easy, but soubdsnlike you have very good reasons beind your decision, which a normal parent would understand and keep the remote contact up.

Make sure you keep screen shots of the times of the indirect contact via face screen time.

Its very worrying for everyone caught up in this.

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I agree with you Ilikechicken and I think its reasonable to state this as a reason for witholding contact that they will be exposed to additonal risk with their abusive parent.

The house of commons have just been discussing support for women in domestic abuse situations. He said not specifically ‘women’, and I dont know what exactly that statement willean specifically,but it’s good that the conversation is publicly happening.

If you know your perpetrator to be takibg risks and not complying, keep evidence amd keep your children safe, as always.

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If your child is at risk of acquiring CV then no they should not go.

However, govt has confirmed children should still be moving between parents homes as previously.

Absolute madness

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Any mental health issues you may have are more than likely see directly attributable to his abuse I would bet.

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Thinking of you on this difficult day for many 💕🌼

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