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Yes my family had involvement from social services. It was with police. Social services were amazing they genuinely saved my life. I was as open as I could be trust took time to build and involved secrecy from my ex. I found the more open I was the more I trusted and spoke my story the more they helped. Honestly they saved mine and my families lives we got out. We would not be living the amazing life with our own choices and freedom that we all as individuals have now. Good luck I hope you get the support you deserve x

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Hi smallbutbrave yes I have several years ago now. I left but with support from agencies. I left in secret. Reacting to him would have been dangerous – perhaps it is the same for you? I never thought I could do it either it’s been so hard but years on life is so good. You are trapped in a cage I get that but there is always a way out maybe the first step is telling someone really safe – call women’s aid if you can safely. There is hope but please safety first x

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Happy new year mini meerkat and to you all. Here’s to kindness to others and ourselves. Wishing us all steps to freedom safety joy x

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Love this. Do it 💪
Baby steps x

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Yea there is always time – it’s never too late. Not easy and not perfect but safe and free. Don’t think they get better take care x

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`passports prescriptions birth certificates marriage certificate bank accounts pensions benefits take care leaving the most dangerous time reach out for support x

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Have you blocked him on everything? Tell your work place… they have to safeguard you whilst there. Have you thought of a non molestation ordr? I got one free via NCDV and social services. Or DV assist? It was terrifying but without that and police he would never have stopped he did eventually it’s taken a long time. Have you spoken to a lawyer? You know him best it’s so unfair – there also stalking organisations for support. Do you have an IDVA? Take care

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Hey toofar – sorry to hear that you are living with this. You deserve better as does your child. We may feel we are protecting them but sadly they also see. I wish I had left earlier. I remember the ‘jokes’ now I can call the for what they were – violence. Rape. Gaslighting. He called them jokes 💔

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Hard days I hear you – I remember saying to a social worker I wish I was brave I just wish I was brave enough. She said you are living with what you live with is so brave. You are brave every day. I couldn’t hear that then. But. Somehow eventually I got out. Left everything Turns out I’m super brave. I just didn’t know it then. Life isn’t perfect but I have no doubt I’m brave – and so are you. Take care sending a hug x

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Hey the pull to go back is strong – the only thing I would say is ….
1/ You left for a reason … can you remember how it felt when things were bad?
2/ life after abuse is bumpy especially if a long relationship, kids or having huge trauma. It goes up and down but gets better overall it takes time
3/ they don’t get better in my experience get worse – sure good spells but it’s all BS
4/ only you can decide
Take care of yourself whichever you decide x

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Love this sms – enjoy!! I found the contrast from what I had endured to caring men very emotional and devastating to realise what I had put up for so long. Dating had been fun – but not going to settle. I’ve got this – they need to add short and long term. Have fun x

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Hey bananaboat – some concerning features here. It’s hard as you can’t say child’s age. Can you speak to an external agency for further advice? Health visitor ? GP? School ? Young minds – an online resource ? NSPCC CAMHS if they have support? Children’s services if involved? Most important of all your child – active listening doing nice stuff they open up best when relaxed having fun and no pressure even if intentions are only to help. Car journeys are good walks water fights days out – anything where it is less intense and less eye contact. You got this banana boat – you are the protective parent xx

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Hey lovethesea. Sorry to hear this – sounds really abusive. Hope he does leave – thing is they often say that and don’t . It becomes part of playing the victim even after they have been abusive. I think talking to someone is a great first step. There is support out there. Could you try women’s aid ? A safe and trusted family member or colleague? A GP? It’s a big step but getting out of an abusive relationship is hard and the risks go up. It’s worth it tho – keep posting when you can. You are not alone x

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Hey distraught – you saw the red flags you got it and you acted – right decision imo. You haven’t survived those exes not to survive and deserve better. Get you! I think you have dodged a bullet. Stay strong!

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Hi done with this – my experience is they don’t change. I suppose if they are engaging with support working really hard on themselves communicating clearly and reflecting maybe some can. My ex promised all of that but it was BS it was yet another way to manipulate. It got worse and worse scary stuff. Social services never bought it. What are you seeing from him – not what he says but how he behaves? Would you – if SS etc were in worrying about your behaviour etc drink again? Somehow I doubt it because you are on here.Look at his behaviour be objective – yes quite possibly it is another sign things need to changes. Lean on support tho x

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