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[citrine]

Thank you. It just sounds so horrible and I hate that I have to do it this way. It’s so sad.

[citrine]

Thank you White rose. I’ll keep my appointment.

My daughter is secondary school age and like your daughter she also sleeps with me to protect me.

She tends to suffer in guilt too all related to her father. But I guess I’m exactly the same.

I’ll see the GP and see what she suggests. I did think about contacting the school so I’ll do this too.

Thank you xxx

[citrine]

Thank you all so much for your advice I appreciate it so much.

My thoughts were the same, how can I make them reply to him if the don’t want to..im sure they are so much stronger than me, I still get pangs of guilt for not being compliant.

I actually did keep my youngest draft email which was blunt. And I will get them to draft letters to him but not send them, I think that’s an excellent idea.

Thank you all so so much again. You all help me get through this difficult time.

Lots of love xxx

[citrine]

Thank you ladies for all your words of encouragement. I’ll stand my ground and say no to mediation.

I just want this all to end it’s so exhausting.

Xxx

[citrine]

I know how you feel sugarskull. My family don’t get it either and prefer to bury their heads in the sand and it really hurts.

How I see it is if our family supported us we would never have got in such a mess, it’s don’t to lack of support.

Like kip said put some distance until you are healed and block out the unhelpful noise.
Xxx

[citrine]

Thank you iwillbeok

You are right it is his pathetic attempt at breaking NC.

My gut is saying no don’t send one, for one because my children are saying NO they aren’t doing it and 2 I’m fed up with conforming and doing what I’m supposed to do.

My children currently don’t want to see and arent him so I guess it’s hard for him to send one on their behalf. Is it? Or I am over thinking??

He just irritates me grrrrr

Xxx

[citrine]

Thank you Dragonfly I won’t.

I just think I want this all over and done with, I just want to get on with my life and be truly free. I know it’s a while off yet though 😔

[citrine]

Thank you ladies.

I had better start doing my research. I would like it resolved quickly. KIP, I’m liking your idea of making an offer to him.

Sounds like a bumpy road ahead

Thank you again all xxx

[citrine]

Hi Amaguq
Sadly i don’t qualify for legal aid (so I’m told)

I guess it’s the price of freedom:)

I wouldn’t be where I am right now if it was for legal support.

Good luck xxx

[citrine]

Hi Serenity

At what point would your son have a voice that would be listened to if he didn’t want to see his father?

My children are adamant that they never want to see their dad again, they worry that they will be made too.

It’s very hard when children have heard and seen so much.

Sending you much love as I would be heart broken if I was away from my children too.

Xxx

[citrine]

Thank you Serenity.

I’ve decided that I’m just going to have to make a great big gap between me and my “friend”. I just so hurt by her actions. I just will never be able to trust her.

Just as I begin to take down my barriers I feel I have to put them back up again.

I guess I dust my knees off and get back up again.

Thank you
Citrine xxx

[citrine]

Omg! I can’t believe how much I can relate to this.

My family think they are so supportive but really it is just empty words. They say how much they’ll help but nothing becomes of it. My mother likes to almost gain from any drama in my life or my sisters And acts like the victim to get support from my father And her friends. I just end up thinking what ??? And I find myself finding my own way, which I’ve done since a child really.

What is so very strange is that my sister also ended up in an abusive relationship. So surely that has something to do with our upbringing.

I will look at the self parenting/partnering

Thank you Serenity (again ) xxx

[citrine]

My children are early secondary age and late primary school age. So not at an age where I will go out and meet mum’s and not at an age where I can leave them for hours on end.

They also not keen on babysitters, although I have used one, plus baby sitters are costly.

I guess I feel I found my freedom but just not quite got it yet.

[citrine]

Thanks KIP. That’s what I needed to hear xxx

[citrine]

I completely agree.

I feel for me that the path I’ve recently taken was lit of for me and step by step there were more and more signs.

I think once you start opening up you become synchronised with the universe.

I also feel that I have a sixth sense kick in, I don’t know if it’s because I’m on alert.but it’s pretty amazing.

Xxx

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