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    • #124264
      Freedom @
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      I’m trying to remain detached and not let my emotions get the better of me but its so hard

    • #124048
      Freedom @
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      Stay strong. Keep going. Its just a bump not a setback. I will send you positive energy in my meditation this morning. Every little bit helps. Keep going x

    • #123897
      Freedom @
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      Please don’t let the councelling hook you back in. Been there and can smell the BS a mile away. My ex also sought councelling after I left, was told to forgive himself, to feel sorry for the person he used to be. He got sympathy from councellor which is the only reason he went for a while. His real behaviour was never discussed and recently claimed to be “rehabilitated.” Who even uses that word if their innocent? In a nutshell run while you have the chance. I had an opportunity then and didn’t take it and still in the process of getting out. He will continue to go to councelling until he feels he has you where he wants you again. X

    • #123620
      Freedom @
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      Thanks @Lisa and @daff.

      Yes I am geeling a bit better today. Some days are harder than others. Nothi g has changed and I dont see a way out any time soon but still feeling a bit brighter for now. Thanks again x

    • #122366
      Freedom @
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      Thank you ladies x

    • #121978
      Freedom @
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      Yes half a story is all I got i stopped asking questions after I found out its not serious. We’ll see…thanks for replies kip and darcy x

    • #121389
      Freedom @
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      Hi @thesoundof rain. I just wanted to say hello. I don’t have much advice really but I’m sure you will find some great support here x

    • #121385
      Freedom @
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      Solace not space

    • #121233
      Freedom @
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      When the body says no, the cost of hidden stress by gabor mate. Insightful book. Also goes into detail about the impact of children growing up alongside unhealthy relations and how they can pick up on fear anxiety stress without even witnessing obvious violence etc…

    • #121223
      Freedom @
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      I have no advice really as I’m not at that point yet. I just wanted to say I hope you find the strength to go. You deserve to be happy x

    • #120004
      Freedom @
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      Sorry for not replying sooner. Thank you all for posts. I’m planning on leaving but if I go I’m not coming back soteying to get the most important things sorted. I haven’t had any threats since or anything but really want to leave ASAP. Its hard with covid waiting on a solicitor.

    • #118770
      Freedom @
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      Thanks kip. Yes I’ve been told to keep a journal but the only evidence I have is verbal abuse and blackmail I.e I’ll kill myself if you ever leave” that kind of thing. It’s not very strong evidence as he can struggle with selective amnesia if you know what I mean. Yes he bangs doors, looks at me like hes insane but it’s only my word against his. This journey is so draining!!!

    • #118766
      Freedom @
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      Yes he wants to do everything informally too, no solocitors/ court “it could go on too long” he says and cost too much. Sure it’s impossible to do these things without solicitors. I’m wondering if I should bring him to court too for full custody as I’m worried what he’ll do after I see a solicitor. Were not married but I do know he has rights etc…How did you all manage that side of it. He told me before hes vindictive so I’m scared what he can do in that regard.

    • #117520
      Freedom @
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      I know it’s so confusing. Your clearly a kind person who cares about others needs but you are not responsible for him. I fell for that line too “I’d kill myself if you ever left” “youd be saving my life if you stay” but in reality we are only responsible for ourselves and our children. I’m sure there are good moments. There has to be otherwise why would you stay. I’m sorry I cant be of much more help as I’m not completely free myself yet. One baby step at a time. The fact your questioning it is a great start x

    • #117513
      Freedom @
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      I am so sorry to read about your experiences. That is nothing short of horrendous abuse and not to mention child abuse. Please please please get help. This forum is not enough for you. Please ring a helpline. To answer your question this is 100% absolutely abuse. Take care of you and your children x

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