Stressedandalone

[Stressedandalone]

My ex was the same. I still feel like it was all me and I was to blame for him being the way he is. I was called childish all the time because I wanted to spend time with him or if I got upset because of the silent treatment. I too felt like I was walking on egg shells all the time. He also accused me of cheating even though it was actually him cheating on me. I think I had some PND too and the way he was just made it worse. Now I’m free I don’t get that anxiety I used to anymore.I too used to get angry so it looked like I was the problem but it would just be a reaction to how he had behaved. They will always put the blame onto us. I’m starting to see how it was abuse but I think there is always a part of me that will believe it was my fault. I’ve just started counselling and I feel more positive already. Maybe you should try counselling on your own to get some clarity.

[Stressedandalone]

I am the same too. Please don’t think you are alone because there are a lot of us who are going through the same. I struggle daily too while he is happy living his life with no concern for all the hurt he’s caused.

[Stressedandalone]

I feel the same way. My bad days seems more than ever at the minute, feel like I’m not coping at all. My ex has moved on too, while we were still together, and it hurts! I could definitely do with the tips for surviving! Please! I’m trying so hard to be strong and not contact him but it’s killing me

[Stressedandalone]

How do you get to be so strong? I want to contact my ex and it’s killing me

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I have been in touch with an agency. I keep thinking it was me that made him behave the way he did, maybe it was me that was the controlling one! Maybe the things he said were true

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I’ve changed my number to stop it all from them to be honest and my solicitor sent a letter too. (Detail removed by moderator). He said (detail removed by moderator).
It just all hurts so much. I’ve been so strong lot contacting him but I just miss him, I wanted him to pick me

[Stressedandalone]

My ex is the same, everything was a lie even when he was caught out he still lied. I’m guessing I will never know the really truth because even if he did tell the truth I would never believe it anyway.

[Stressedandalone]

I feel the same. I wasn’t happy with him and his ways but I miss him and I miss having that family unit! I go places with my children and I feel sad that he’s not there and he’s missing these things. He was cheating on me for quite some time and is still with her and it hurts. I know I am better off without him and he’s her problem now but I still want him to come back and beg me to be with him but he never has. He appears very happy while I’m the one who feels broken without him! It’s such a horrible situation, I want to contact him but I’ve been so brave and strong and not done it. I’m hoping the good days come soon too

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If you are asking yourself that question then it isn’t you. They all make us feel like it’s our fault and that we’ve done something wrong. I’ve been feeling like this today but when I look back it really isn’t us, it’s them! We are just too nice and trusting. Start to put yourself first and not believe what everybody else says! You are doing an amazing job

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Thank you, I do feel a bit better today just keeping myself busy with the kids. I can’t believe this one person has hurt me so much. I really hope it will get better soon I don’t want to feel like this anymore. It made me feel uncomfortable too because I felt as if I was cheating on him, so silly and I just wasn’t used to somebody being nice to me again after so long. Thank you though x

[Stressedandalone]

@was-it-me please don’t hate yourself. I know exactly how you feel and I’m sure a lot of women on here do. You wonder what she had that you don’t have but at the end of the day we never deserved the treatment we got. I’ve spoken to my ex’s ex partner and she had the same treatment I did and I wish somebody would have told me the true him as o knew a stranger for a long time! His new wife will get the same treatment too and let’s hope she is as strong as you to walk away. Facebook only ever shows the good stuff not what’s going on behind closed doors.

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She keeps contacting me rubbing it in that they are together, she is the one he cheated with and he’s told me so many times he doesn’t want to be with her but let’s her answer his phone giving me abuse, swearing at me. Yeah he’s super charming. I hate that I trusted him and that I let him abuse me for so long. But yet I still miss him and I miss my life

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@was-it-me I feel the same as you. I miss the man I thought I knew the good man I first met and it’s so hard to remember the bad times. It’s so hard to think of them with somebody else too, mine was cheating for months and it’s heart breaking! I feel like I’ve been destroyed by both him and his new partner, it’s hard to see better days.

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Thank you. I’m trying to stay strong bit it’s the not knowing what they will do next or say. He used somebody else’s number to call me (detail removed by moderator) and emailed too  (detail removed by moderator). He then proceeded to message my mom and make threats to her, calling me names again. It was the threat of he’s only, (detail removed by moderator). Just so scared about losing my daughter.

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I feel the same way too. My ex was cheating for quite some time and he’s still with her. He hasn’t bothered with me at all and just doesn’t care. I want him to care but he just doesn’t. I think that’s what hurts the most.

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