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Hi I’m glad you now have freedom and choices and that therapy helped you. I had therapy after I left the relationship, and it was great really helped. However we didn’t touch much on this kind of thing, so maybe I should think about therapy again x

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Autocorrect I meant anything not “smirking”

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He abused me and went to prison, the abuse was all at me. But said threatening things about our Child and never did smirking for her when I was with him. Would all the evidence from the abuse I suffered not be taken into account? And the threatening things he said about our child were verbal so that’s my word against his isn’t it?

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Thank you very much x

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For me, the thought of going to court was worse than actually being there. First arriving it’s a little daunting, your nervous etc which is normal. You can request a screen around the perpetrator or you can do it via video link in another room so you don’t have to see them. The police were amazing with me, the detective never left my side she held my hand (literally) through the entire thing. The judge was lovely and polite to me and all the staff made me feel very at ease, everyone was on my side. It’s a very powerful thing to do, being able to speak out and go to court and powerful is what you’ll feel afterwards. Lots of love and good luck to you x

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Vex King – Good vibes, good life.

It’s amazing❤️ Life changing read x

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I contacted my local MP to help
Me in fighting the early release but it didn’t work, he’s out now I received the call today…what a day is all I can say. I might look into seeing if I can get him moved, speak to Idas and the gp and local council are what they say. I feel Iv done so much fighting for months and months to get justice and I ensure my safety and I am so utterly exhausted now the more I’m fighting against stuff the more I’m falling apart.

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He can come back to the same area Iv been told even though I appealed that he couldn’t however, restrictions of the area have been put in place…not convinced he will stick to these as he has no respect for the law & has broken things like this in the past. An emergency alert is a good suggestion!

None of this is ideal for my mental health, I feel like I’m crumbling more & more everyday.

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I have support from IDAS & practical support is being arranged in terms of safety. I’m reluctant to see my GP as I don’t have a click with just one you see someone different every time you go, I always bottle it when I think of calling them. I was in touch with a private counselling a month back, she said she’d be in touch to speak to me for a second time but never did, I text her & no reply.

I don’t want to feel pushed out of my home because of him, Iv not been here long and made it my own & cosy. I have plans for university, my friends and family are here, I have a baby to think of I can’t just up and go that would never work.

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Thank you for the support everybody, I was having a really dark day, one of many. But I’m feeling better this week. Every day/ week is so different and it gets quite exhausting. It’s the worst feeling in the world feeling like you’d be better off dead, but I know this really is not the answer x

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Update: He set up a Facebook account and (detail removed by moderator) he sent me some very abusive & derogatory messages, I was so shocked! & also very upset because he flipped out at me before but this was a whole new level and I haven’t experienced something this bad since my ex obviously. Iv blocked him on there too x

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Not at all you’re doing those things to protect yourself you’re not doing it to hurt others so never think you’re an abuser you’re not x

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Block his number and when you’re ready take back control and report this sweetie by doing that you’re showing that you’re strong that what he’s done isn’t ok and he can’t get away from it and you’re protecting yourself your children and other women x

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This is so lovely and true, thank you so much for sharing x

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Thank you girls xx

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Hi guys you were right, major red flags he wasn’t who I thought he was. Yes he could be kind, loving & respectful but that all changed when I made a comment that he couldn’t control me. He started making the odd comment here and there similar things to what my ex used to say and I didn’t like it and it made me uneasy. I didn’t notice these subtle, small things in the beginning of my previous relationship but I can identify these now and need to keep telling myself to trust my instincts and that I’m not being dramatic or overly sensitive. When I told him he couldn’t control me he got really angry with me and rather than trying to understand why I would say something like that and why I’d have my guard up he got angry and ended things between us and he became very rude and cold. I tried for a whole hour to explain and I was very upset I couldn’t believe how desperate I was for him to listen and to not leave I’m very embarrassed and disappointed that I was falling into the same trap for the second time. But then I snapped out of it and told him straight and told a few home truths about him to say it lightly. Iv now blocked him and deleted his number. It feels very weird again not having someone to talk to all the time and not having the love and company again but I knew it’s the right thing because if id have carried on it wouldn’t have ended well. It’s also made me realise I am still very very vulnerable, the trauma from my ex is still raw and I am not ready to be emotionally involved with anybody until I fix myself first. You live & learn I suppose x

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IWMB thank you, I think I’ll do that. Just sit back and watch, I don’t want to jump to huge conclusions just yet…thank you. I’ll keep posting on here if anything else concerns me or it I’m unsure x

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One I have felt so empowering recently is Beyoncé best thing I never had! X

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Hi guys, overall I thought he was nice and kind. He’s always listened and been supportive, he respects my wishes and makes that very clear, he takes interest in me, my family and my days. He makes me laugh and has kept me going through a difficult month…he’s not all bad. Just I felt a bit unsure and uneasy when he made a joke about not speaking to me he was very apologetic afterwards when he realised that this had upset me and told me that was never his intention…I really don’t know what to think here x

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I’m glad this post has helped you guys in some way, I hope you’re all doing ok…the world is pretty crazy right now right? And KIP what you have achieved and the work you have done is absolutely amazing huge well done x

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Yes KIP he’s in prison x

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This is great! I’m glad your feeling more positive it’s great to hear! I really hope the police help you, they were amazing for me I couldn’t have asked for more x

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Becky Hill- Better off without you x

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Fight song is so empowering, really gives me that boost on the days I need it x

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I think Iv seen this too recently, it’s amazing❤️

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I absolutely love Praying by Kesha the words are so close to home x

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I love this one too! X

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You are free and amazing things will be coming your way x

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We will never back down and we will always come out stronger! X

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Super glad this helps!! Music is a great therapy x

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