Rosemary

[Rosemary]

Hello Lisa thank you so much for all this information I really appreciate it and it is so stressful what I am going through and I know his giveing me manipulation and being emotionally controlling and I really feel isolated he gives me headache he don’t even breath when he talks either he goes on and on I have to tell him that I don’t want to talk about it anymore. What I worry is that my kids will be unhappy with me if there dad can’t come down my home but they need to try and understand what I am going thought it’s not easy for me .

[Rosemary]

Thank you so much Lisa sorry I am late seeing your comment I really appreciate you I will phone DV to see what they say and what you say is all true and I don’t like what he is doing .

[Rosemary]

Hello marmite

Your ex husband does not have to know where you and your daughter are going especially though domestic abuse he can see your daughter through a contact centre. My daughter was like that where she hated her dad because she seen what I went thought and what she went through with him but know she is okay with him it’s the truma they find it hard to cope with . Don’t put your self in danger I would not meet up with the dad at all stay away from him as much as possible you can get a non molestation order so them he can’t go near you and your daughter I hope things work out for you

[Rosemary]

Hello girl01

Your not overthinking for the way you feel his makeing your anxiety bad I do feel for you as I’ve been thought the same situation as you please think of your self first your health you deserve to be treated better your anxiety will get better if you leave him never blame your self for his own doings you don’t have anxiety for no reason lovely please reach out to women and and refuge as they can help you also your Gp can help to I hope your okay and things get better for you

[Rosemary]

Thank you mellow I’ve told him that he can meet our children somewhere and not to come to my address but my children also are telling him to come down which is not helping at all even my family are saying his trying to win him self back in which I don’t want him to and my support worker said if I get a different house that kids dad can’t come down as it’s especially for women and children who have been thought domestic violence so if my support worker gets me a different place he can’t come and he has to listen other wise my support worker will end up getting the non molestation order her self to keep him away from me .the kids dad is saying (detail removed by Moderator). So my kids dad is trying to tell me who I can and can’t have at my own home I don’t understand him because he knows he can’t control me anymore

[Rosemary]

Thank you so much mellow I should not have to put up with this your right and my children should understand what this is doing to me I ran away for a reason. Sorry your going thought the same thing it’s just horrible. I’ve told him that my support worker said he should not be coming around to me but his not listening to me .

[Rosemary]

Hello lozzy it’s not easy to move away from him so I understand your feelings but my advice would be you move as soon as you can because he will never change women aid and refuge can help you get thought this as they have helped me so much I was scared to run away from my kids dad but in the end I had to do it to make sure me and my children are safe abuse men will make you stay with them and make out they have done nothing wrong please look after your self your health is very important to you can get away safely women aid will help you and advice you what you should do . I wish you all the best and I prey things go well for you please don’t put up with what his doing because it’s not okay you should not have to put up with his behaviour.

[Rosemary]

Thank you so much i always hope one day my life will turnaround from domestic violence I ran away from my kids dad a while ago but know his back in my life and things are getting worse again I hope one day he gets thought his head that I don’t love him anymore instead of saying he will love me till the end of his day’s his not letting me move on my self and getting jealous because I have a boyfriend. When I ran away the kids dad was not in my life I was feeling better but know my depression and anxiety is getting worse again because he found out where I live why don’t men understand us women when we say we don’t love them we mean it . Thank you for your post it made me think positive God bless you 🙏

[Rosemary]

Thank you so much kip for your advice I really appreciate it I should not have to live like this the abuse is continuing the dad to my kids seams to think he has changed but he ain’t I told my kids dad to move on and stop saying he loves me because it’s not going to make me go back with him no way his even trying to control me what I can and can’t do with my new boyfriend the dad was asking me questions ans the questions he was asking me I did not want to answer he keep on for ages talking to him . If I get the non molestation order do you think my kids will go mad at me ,? Because all I am doing is protecting me and my kids. When I ran away from the dad my life was better know his back in it things are starting again which I don’t like . I’ve been feeling really emotional lately to .

[Rosemary]

Hello Twisted sister

Thank you for your advice one of my friends waited 3 to 4 years to get a house that is a long time to wait i hope I don’t wait that long . I have got support which is good my support worker is getting things sorted out but it’s a long process I now I have to wait as things can’t move quickly. I hate how me and my children live it’s horrible but one day I hope I get a house I want .I try and get out most days if I can because staying in the homeless places are depressing.

[Rosemary]

Hello mellow
Thank you for careing I am sorry what you are going thought I would not think the council would let you stay with the abuser that’s not right please contact women aid to do you a letter they can help to move you should not be liveing like that I now there are short of houseing but they need to support. You can get support in the situation you are in please keep on calling up the council they need to help you I hate to think you are suffering. Thank you for your advice I really appreciate it

[Rosemary]

Thank you Twisted sister for your help and advice I really appreciate it (detail removed by moderator) I have a non molestation order the police should of arrested him not let him get away with it . The police should take the non molestation order serious

Its really nice haveing this form because we give each other support I will come back here it’s nice to help each other and be here for one a other. Thank you for being here for me it’s very kind of you.

[Rosemary]

Thank you so much Lisa for your support I really appreciate it so . It is very tireing to keep on going but I do all my best and I keep strong for my children . I feel like I am on my own I am getting no where for weeks on end. I will send you a private message thank you Lisa

Kind regards rosemary

[Rosemary]

Hello Twisted sister
Thank you for your message I got a non molestation order the court granted it the thing is my ex is still doing things what he should not be doing his contracting my friends and family down grading me his telling lots of lies as well which is makeing things worse I’ve ever reported him stalking me to the police and the police have not done anything about it .me and my children are vulnerable in the area we live and the council will not move me they should move us it’s deugesting how I am being treated . My ex should get arrested but he has not the police are trying to end this because my ex is makeing false allegation he keeps on doing it the police are getting fed up of it . I contracted women aid for help but no one contracted me I always keep trying to get in touch with them to support me I can’t sleep or feel safe it’s horrible

[Rosemary]

Thank you searchingforhope

For careing I really appreciate it so much sorry for late reply it is exhausting what I am going thought it’s one thing after a other I wish things got better I still don’t have my own house I am bidding I am getting no where its stressful I am still paying laundrette prices which is makwing me struggle to its horrible liveing the way we do

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