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Hiya

We all were with a Con man abuser liar
opportunists That is who they are
They are not able to love anyone just good at pretending to
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They only want to abuse us more if they circle back they really really don’t love us or anyone else . Well maybe themselves
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We are all here for you
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Hiya
No it does not reflect badly on you quite the opposite
The ones that circle back do so to ones they thinks are a soft touch including me . It is not a compliment it’s a hoover .they don’t love only see an opportunity to do some more abusing .
So you in fact are very strong.
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(detail removed by Moderator) what ever gives them whatthey want is good to go
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Hiya
You should be so proud of your self
My ex used a weapon on me in front of his new girlfriend
And she took it to mean that he wished me to leave them alone as he gave her the story that I was bugging them
In fact he was still in arelationship with me and telling her a different story
Her Seeing that level of violence towards me from him she never even tried to stop him it was like her agreeing that I deserved it and he was hitting me as he now wanted her .
Even years later he still trying to get back with me and she is still with him.
It’s mind boggling
Big hugs xx

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Gosh Drangon fly
they are really full of them self
letting him self in who would do that ? but a bully and an abuser
How did you stop him ?
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Yay great ideas we really need to spoil ourselves after the nightmare we have been through
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Hiya
Gosh they use any excuse don’t they it’s properly not even true
They make up anything that suits them
Well done in getting away
I hope the young girl have good parents that see through him just like your mama did
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Hiya
Yes that is how abusers live their life latching on to good women untill they are found out and move on to the next unsuspecting women telling them how abusive their last partner was and never helped them
Don’t take it personal it’s what they do
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Hiya
Yes it’s a great idea one he is out you can then work on keeping him away
I hope he will do as he says as abusers are not true to their word
well done it’s the first step
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Hiya please call the helpline get your place and go with out thinking to much about it . That’s what I did and you will have a lot of support and help in getting your own place .
You need to have peace of mind and you can’t get it staying where you are
You deserve a fresh start and to have your own money and be in charge of what you want to do
Hugs xx

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Hiya You are a beautiful gentle caring soul and you met a psychopath
And it leaves us in a state of shock and turmoil
If you read up about psychopaths it all makes sense
They target us because we are kind and caring
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Hiya
It’s like We have all been out with the same man
you described my relationship in all that you wrote .
Please look up psychopath free it will help
You have been very aware and well done in getting away
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I meant Please continue to protect the children from him . Xx

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Hiya
plese phone the helpline and let someone help you and your beautiful children get away from your abuser so you can have some peace
He is just a user and what he says about his own children is nasty
You don’t need a abusive man child to look after too
Love is kind and caring and supportive you deserve so much more
You are a wonderful mother please continue to hem from him
Big hugs xx

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Hiya lots of abusers circle around their ex victim
Mine still pops his head up wanting to get back in my life and he has moved on with another women for a few years now so it is common with them
Trying to recycle rinse repeat
You need to get some advice and make sure your home security and your children are safe at all times
He wants your attention that’s for sure .
Keepeing silent will not keep you safe
It’s okay to have support .
Hugs xx

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Hi Kip

It happenened to me too I felt like I was was bothering them and had talked for less then 10 mins answering questions and I felt judged too

You have us all on here and I notice are always helping and saying Hello and are here for us all on here

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Hi Ha
Everything that I have read about when they go back and hoover is that it’s not a compliment it means they still think they can use or fool you and the men that don’t Hoover the women is because they knew their game was up and the women was to strong for them so the compliment is in you
I don’t think we should want to be friends with them because then that validates how they treated us was okay
And then they think to themselves see I was not bad she still wants to be my friend .
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Hi Apple I hope you are okay
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Hi Sadie
My ex used to say that to me it’s emotional bibery
You are not responisble for his actions
If he says it to you again , you can say you will need to call his GP and he will be sectioned to hospital if that’s how he is feeling
It’s best not to tell them anything if you want to leave
Big hugs xxx

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Hi Ayanna
How are you going today ? Hope you are feeling better
Please let us know how you are
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Hi I am free
You described how a Narcissist/psychopath has a relationship with any woman that he is with .
And because of their behaviour unfortunately that is why many of us on this site are here
because of the same types of abusers

Please read up about narcissists and psychopaths it will really help you to see how common it is and how you have to be gentle with yourself to get better After they have done their worst

I am so glad you are Free and you can start to love and treat yourself again With out him tearing anything down anymore
Please post as much as you want
Everyone on here is so supportive and very knowledgeable
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Hey BD
So true the being treated like a queen or its not worth it 👑
Let’s fix our crowns back on straight yay
We are all Queens 👑
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Yes Exactly and it’s not our job to raise a grown man.
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Hiya LC
Can you change your number or block his number if you have a smart phone.
Please keep us up to date about the work situation
Copying is very common as they want everything we are
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Yay you deserve all the happiness in the world
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Oh sweetie yes you should move out I feel so sad reading your post you and your poor baby please please please can you both get away from that guy he doesn’t love anyone . Love is kind and protecting . he doesn’t know how to love and will not change for you or anyone else .
You can have a quiet gentle life with you and your lovely baby she has heard a lot and she probably wet herself because he scared her not just wet her self and then he punished her
You both sound so unsafe , you can be killed easily by being strangled.

Do not tell him any thing you are thinking about , if you leave do not tell him , do not talk about divorce it is the most dangerous time for Women when they leave.
So you would need to get all your papers up together with out him knowing.

Please don’t let him be alone with your baby she is being abused she is so young and can’t protect her self she needs her Mummy to get help to protect her . Please use all the help you can to get you both away from this angry man
You will both be so happy in peace and calm , it what you and your precious baby deserves
you are in the right place now we will all on here have your back and support you. Stay close to this forum as much as you can as there is so much support from women who have had similar relationships as yours .
Big Hugs xxx

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Hi Hun
what you seen when the mask dropped is the real him
Yes he can put back on the mask again and play nice guy but they are what they are and under that mask is the real him and they cant keep the mask on for ever
you have seen the real him and he sounds very dangerous and scary
Please don’t believe his words it’s all a game to them
please stay away from him it will get easier and you will meet other people in time
Big hugs xxx

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Yes exactly this
and everything they say we are , they are talking about themselves (projection)

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