missgiddypants

[missgiddypants]

no not forgot mine I was abused by my father ,bullied at school ,abused by my ex and bullied at work
every man in my life has treated me like Sh** ,so I;m staying clear of relationships only way to stop
the cycle

[missgiddypants]

I’ve been out a long time and since my divorce and leaving my marital home I have had a stress throat
,sometimes my throat gets that dry I end up coughing and choking ,all other aches and pains I put down to my age and my job

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taking time out for yourself ,long soak in a nice bubble bath ,nice walk either by yourself or in my case with my dogs ,reading a book sometimes I will spend all day reading a book cos hey ho gals there’s no-one to tell me I can’t

[missgiddypants]

ye I had to fill one in ,some time ago ,I managed to do it all by myself ,the Solicitor said well done
most people can’t get past the first few pages

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hello ladies not been on in a long time ,I too am over 50 been divorced a few years now my abuser met someone else .and tossed me aside ,he was a controlling bully for years which he denied I put up with a lot ,just put up with it ,he didn’t just leave to be with another but played me for months ,then turned round and told me he was divorcing me even tho he committed Adu***y,getting what he wanted as usual
my question is ,ladies will I get over what he did and the way he did it or will it stay in my mind forever

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ha ha love the freaky granny pants Freedoms I got some knickers once and said to him do you like them ? no he said they are not sexy ???? what was that all about ,grown my hair not been near a hairdresser in years as he told me to go get it done and when I came back would say it not look any different or dont know hwy you go you have know what you want doing ,go clothes shopping for what I want not what he told me to buy and as for ADVENTURES ,well ladies that’s a whole different ball game as I have a campervan so me and my dogs go on adventures all the time ,could tell you some right tales but have to go now xxx

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you go girl ,its good to be in charge and deciding things for yourself and as you go sing to yourself its my life !!! xx

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yep me too ladies been in my place few years now but its my sanctuary freedom to do as I please clean it when I want ,eat what I want ,sit here and do nothing all day if I wish the only demands I get now are from my dogs ,you know what I mean woof feed me ,woof gimme treats woof take me walkies ,shop where I want buy what I want and if its cheap not get told you only bought that cos it was cheap ,go for walks and not get told come on yer dawdling about
such a simple life ladies but I’m in charge nobody else !!!!! xx

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I had to leave my marital home as he wanted it sold ,one day he was round there painting the bedroom ceiling ,and was rabbiting on at me about the Bf of the g**l he left me for ,saying he was a bully and a tyrant I said to him so are you so he says I don’t have to paint this to which I replied you are not doing it for my benefit the house is up for sale ,when it sold I moved away to another place a few miles away don’t go anywhere near my old house or the area I lived in either ,I asked my sister to come and support me on my moving day which she did ,but as the sale went through last minute didn’t have time to think about it
wasn’t till a few days later when I was unpacking my boxes and found a picture of my sister that is no longer here that I collapsed on the floor in a crumpled heap hugging her picture and bawling my eyes out x

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was wondering if this is miss Perry ,she does some powerful stuff ,Roar is my fave ,sit there quietly agree politely forgot I had a choice forgot I had a voice ,how many of us can echo that !!!

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don’t be sorry none of what he did to you was right ,you didn’t deserve it none of us do ,I’ve been out a long time but still get tormented by thoughts of what he mine did no where near as bad a you so sending you
a big hug ,keep ya chin up .as we all must xxxxx

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no i not have any workplace benefits not in a union ,I just seem to go through spells of finding things rattle me ,we cant say what we do but imagine going to a place doing something then when its done leave
I do this several times a day at different places for different companies ,one of them lost the contract
so have been under a lot of stress last few months with it all x

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Hi Mini Mayhem I went through similar to you ,my ex left me for another  (removed by moderator) ,he put our house on the market so they could by a place together ,he too said his marriage had been bad for years ,when he had a go at me I would retaliate back which of course bullies not like ,he was ages before he moved out of my house moved in with her but she threw him out so he came back them moved into his own place ,I would get threats of I’m not paying the M**e if I not do as I was told ,he too said go onto a dating site ,find somebody it will help you through it ,didn’t at first but when I did went straight into the arms of another bully ,
you can get a solicitor to draw something up to make them pay their way ,I did it to stop him not paying the bills and also not throwing me out of the house until it was sold ,I’M divorced btw as he even took that right from me by divorcing me even tho he committed a***y he put me through hell for a number of months making me lose weight it was horrendous x

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think I may have worded that wrong I think I mean they reckon someone that tries to commit suicide doesn,t
necessarily want to die they just want the pain to end and for all of us we want the pain in our hearts to go away !!! xx

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they say that folk want to die just so they can end the pain they feel ,me too ladies I have felt like that and I have been out years ,those that don’t know me he left me for another ,blamed me for it all of course
I got emotional abuse ,sexual and later financial got threatened all the time if I not do as he said he not pay the M***ge ,I put up with it for decades so him leaving me for another has all but destroyed me
I not have children so can’t keep going for them But I do have 2 dogs so they have kept me from topping myself ,even thought about it recently as I have been getting some stress at work ,just keep plodding along best I can ,was talking to someone the other day where I work ,he is depressed and on anti depressants ,he says he struggles with life and the stress of his job is making him worse I can so relate to that xxx

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I think a lot of us want revenge ,mine has sailed off into the sunset with another woman without even knowing the damage he has inflicted on me ,even tho I am few years out of it ,I have a quote which says (removed by moderator) if you know someone who is still alive cos you can’t afford a hit man it’s from minions quotes x

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good for you we can be strong we can do this live a better life without ABUSE !!! x

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I have only one thing to say WALK AWAY don’t go near him he is a nasty human being ,read back over your post everything you have written is all wrong ,this is something I have noticed if I write it down how wrong it is x

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sorry that you miss your dogs ,reverse for me I took them .told him he wasn’t having them ,he saw them after he left ,came round to walk them and control and bully me ,oh and whinge about her ,after the house was sold and I moved he asked if he could have the dogs for the weekend so I said no ,not after what you did to me ,he says oh going back to that are you I said yes why did you threaten me you weren’t going to pay the mortgage ,I was always going to pay the mortgage says he why threaten me or was that his way of making me tow the line just like I had to when I was married to him ,he had to have the last word I havent spoken to him since then ,and X years ago bought myself a little camper so we can go away ,gives me something to focus on ,planning where I am going ,what I am going to eat ,
enjoy the crafts ,will be nice making little things for yourself x

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your obviously still in love with him ,I remember telling someone it was going to be hard to just stop loving my EX ,he was already in love with someone else ,she said you don’t have to stop loving him you can love him for the rest of your life ,but not now I despise him for what he has done to me ,he probably knows you still love him so will be relishing in the thought you can’t do without him ,cos no matter how bad he is you still went to him ,not a very good situation for you as you must stay clear ,have you had any counselling ???

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all hail that !!! its great getting your own place without their influence ,I decided against buying !!
which was all well and good but the stress of worrying about finding a place that allows dogs was horrid but I did it ,looking back now I had the stress of my divorce (he divorced me ) stress of selling my marital home and him coming round to the house and still controlling me but X years on I’ve survived I got rid of some of the things from my house like pots n pans gave my sister my dinner service ,got rid of some ornaments ,moved in and 2 days later had a beano in Poundstretcher ,as I need new curtains as my old ones not fit my windows and changed my cushion covers ,best thing was buying things without him saying you only bought it cos it was cheap ,still have some things from my old house all the furniture but my place
is full of peace and quiet ,that’s if you count dog snoring at quiet ,hope all goes well for you xx

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oh dear big hugs to you and it’s awful if he gets away with the rape that really is bad news xx

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hugs Eve 1 not have that problem any more as my abusive parents have long since departed this world so I not have to listen to them ,also have a bro and sis gone too ,and my only remaining sister not have time for me too wrapped up in her own little world ,she knows what I’VE been through and her oh is abusive to her too ,been in my house few years but she has never been here ,
never been on anti depressants so don’t know how they make you feel
I have actually built myself a life in the years I have been in my house and done it all by myself without any help from anyone xx

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sometimes when I read posts on here I sit and cry at what someone has gone through but just now reading Falling Skys reply about men peeing in the corner to show their dominance had me crying with laughter xx

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like that KIP can’t stop laughing at it lots of men are full of verbal junk !!! xx

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awww big hugs hun hope you are ok xxx

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hi ALONE hope you are ok feel for you as I’m like you not like being alone that’s why I stayed with my abuser ,try looking at the deals LIDL do when they have offers on running stuff and try charity shops
for some new clothes BBC are currently doing a shop well for less programme at the moment and they get some nice things from charity shops ,

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sunny by nature it’s always our fault they push you that far you snap back and suddenly wham you’re the one that,s at fault I got that all the time ,tried to standing up to him when he was having a go at me but that not go down very well ,when he left me for another ,I asked if he was happy now and he said yes ,broke my heart kept thinking if I hadn’t had a go at him he wouldn’t have left me ,said this to a girl I worked with at the time she said don;t be daft if he had treated you like a princess put you on a pedestal the yes you would have been in the wrong but if you hadn’t stood up to him you would have been a doormat ,took me long time to realise the abuse I suffered ,controlling ,sexual abuse and the mental torture he put me through over the other women went on for many months will stay with me forever I will never forget and never forgive him either

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of course you miss the nice parts of your life ,it can take a long time to build yourself a new life of your own that you can be happy with ,don’t let this friend get to you ,she has no right to tell you to get over it ,it’s like when someone is bereaved, I never say Life goes on as we all deal with it differently don’t let her walk all over you ,stand up to her ,as they say with friends like that who needs enemies x

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all hail to that Ayanna my sentiments exactly ,xxx

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